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bb64
07-17-2006, 05:18 PM
14 years and roughly 70,000 dollars later. I can't believe it. It's like getting a really good raise in my paycheck this week.

Hardrock69
07-18-2006, 12:55 PM
Congrats.

This is why I never got married.

I worked my ass off all my life to get where I am today.

I'll be damned if I am gonna let some bitch take half of MY property.

Fortunately I have never had any children.

So kids have never had to suffer because their mother and I could not get along.

Little Texan
07-18-2006, 05:26 PM
Originally posted by Hardrock69
Congrats.

This is why I never got married.

I worked my ass off all my life to get where I am today.

I'll be damned if I am gonna let some bitch take half of MY property.

Fortunately I have never had any children.

So kids have never had to suffer because their mother and I could not get along.

How old are you HR? I agree, marriage blows from all that I've seen of it over the years, and kids are nothing but a pain in the ass if you ask me.

Little Texan
07-18-2006, 05:30 PM
Originally posted by bb64
14 years and roughly 70,000 dollars later. I can't believe it. It's like getting a really good raise in my paycheck this week.

Yeah, and the sad (or infuriating) part is that most of that money doesn't even get used for the kid's benefit, but to fund the bitch's latest shopping spree at the mall. They should rename it bitch support, because in many cases it isn't the child who is being supported with that money.

MERRYKISSMASS2U
07-18-2006, 06:35 PM
Psycho bitches from hell don't deserve a dime. Judges should look at the circumstances. If the mother is single, she deserves every penny in my opinion. If she has a sugar daddy who supports her, she shouldn't get shit.

Seshmeister
07-18-2006, 08:53 PM
Originally posted by bb64
14 years and roughly 70,000 dollars later. I can't believe it. It's like getting a really good raise in my paycheck this week.

That's what $100 a week, I know there is some inflation going on but still.

I don't know how many kids you have or anything about this situation but I do know that I haven't separated from the mother, I have 3 kids and the oldest isn't even 3 yet and I've spent at least $40k already probably a lot more...:)

Cheers!

:gulp:

Nickdfresh
07-18-2006, 09:10 PM
Originally posted by Little Texan
Yeah, and the sad (or infuriating) part is that most of that money doesn't even get used for the kid's benefit, but to fund the bitch's latest shopping spree at the mall. They should rename it bitch support, because in many cases it isn't the child who is being supported with that money.


Originally posted by MERRYKISSMASS2U
Psycho bitches from hell don't deserve a dime. Judges should look at the circumstances. If the mother is single, she deserves every penny in my opinion. If she has a sugar daddy who supports her, she shouldn't get shit.

Well, there are a lot of cunts out there on a spending spree for themselves, I knew one guy that said his ex had the audacity to say she used his child-support to buy a gift for her boyfriend!!

But still, the kids need support even if the mother's a cunt.

But I think fathers should have more recourse in demanding receipts, or presenting evidence of neglect in a court...

Hardrock69
07-18-2006, 09:54 PM
I am 46.

Almost got married once...we ended the engagement mutually...we just were not right for each other below the surface. And we are still friends.

I can see living with someone you love for however many years...even if it stretches into decades.

Can't tell me that lifetime relationships can never happen. Can't tell me either that there is no such thing as love at first sight.

To me however, it seems there have been too many cases of people ripping off their ex as a vindictive measure during divorce proceedings.

"I am going to take you for everything you've got!", etc., etc.

I don't play games.
I will not waste my time.
I don't just DIE if I do not have a relationship going.


So I still have everything I own.

WOOT!
:cool:

Cathedral
07-19-2006, 12:36 AM
Originally posted by Little Texan
How old are you HR? I agree, marriage blows from all that I've seen of it over the years, and kids are nothing but a pain in the ass if you ask me.

I have to disagree with ya here.
My kids were the best thing ever to happen to me.
Parents who don't discipline their kids are what makes them a pain in the ass, lol.

if you spent a week in my home your opinion would change. My baby is and has always been a little angel.

And i got an eerie sense of Deja Vu while typing this, even the Deja Vu part....that's creepy.

Roth On!

Cathedral
07-19-2006, 12:39 AM
Originally posted by bb64
14 years and roughly 70,000 dollars later. I can't believe it. It's like getting a really good raise in my paycheck this week.

You got off lucky, bro, if that is all you had to pay.

but you paid it, and that's the admirable part.

Good Job, now you can upgrade your lifestyle and live for you and what you want to do.

bb64
07-19-2006, 09:56 AM
Believe me when I say I've gone above and beyond that amount when it comes to my kid...he's everything to me.....
I wrote that weekly check off as just another bill to pay and never gave it a second thought.
Now I'm paying for college, a car, and a laptop needed for college and she doesn't understand why the support is no longer going to her?........it never ends, she feels i should keep sending her some.
And in the same sentence tells me she can't help with college expenses...it's a funny world we live in.
Thanks for listening:)

bb64
07-19-2006, 10:00 AM
Originally posted by Cathedral


Good Job, now you can upgrade your lifestyle and live for you and what you want to do.


No, not til college is paid for but thanks for getting me excited for 30 seconds...lol

WACF
07-19-2006, 11:02 AM
Originally posted by bb64
14 years and roughly 70,000 dollars later. I can't believe it. It's like getting a really good raise in my paycheck this week.


Feels good I bet...

I have 4 more years and my oldest is 18, then college...I hope.
That I do not really mind shelling out for at all.
Just handing money over with no accountability is wrong...but that is the system.

MERRYKISSMASS2U
07-19-2006, 11:08 AM
moral of the story? 2 bucks for this:

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Seshmeister
07-19-2006, 11:15 AM
Or $0 for anal...:)

Northern Girl
07-19-2006, 11:20 AM
Moral of the story? Quit marrying fucking bitches. Lots of nice girls out there.

I can't be the only one that believes you don't get married to have someone to take care of you financially. I can't be the only one that believes the system's fucked in how they figure child support based on income. I can't be the only one that believes all costs for raising a child should be split evenly between the mother and father.

guwapo_rocker
07-19-2006, 11:24 AM
Originally posted by Northern Girl
Moral of the story? Quit marrying fucking bitches. Lots of nice girls out there.

I can't be the only one that believes you don't get married to have someone to take care of you financially. I can't be the only one that believes the system's fucked in how they figure child support based on income. I can't be the only one that believes all costs for raising a child should be split evenly between the mother and father.

When it comes to this, the courts are quite sexist!

Northern Girl
07-19-2006, 11:34 AM
Originally posted by guwapo_rocker
When it comes to this, the courts are quite sexist!

Well...it's a catch 22...the courts have to be this way because of all the men who don't pay child support...but a lot of the men don't pay because they feel the amount is unfair and they know that it's not going for the kid...no simple solution...I think it should be figured on an individual basis.

Seshmeister
07-19-2006, 11:55 AM
Originally posted by Northern Girl

I can't be the only one that believes you don't get married to have someone to take care of you financially. I can't be the only one that believes the system's fucked in how they figure child support based on income. I can't be the only one that believes all costs for raising a child should be split evenly between the mother and father.

No you're absolutely not the only one that believes that, but you may be the only female that does...:)

Ally_Kat
07-19-2006, 12:00 PM
Originally posted by Northern Girl
I can't be the only one that believes all costs for raising a child should be split evenly between the mother and father.

Yeah, but if I'm only making 30grand and he's making 80grand -- you can barely pay the bills here on 30grand, nevermind having to keep my child(ren) clothed, fed, and equipped for school.

I am on the belief that it needs to be proved where the money is going. Too many people do take advantage and try to get revenge through this. It should be about the child(ren)

MERRYKISSMASS2U
07-19-2006, 12:03 PM
Originally posted by Seshmeister
Or $0 for anal...:)

nope! google splash conception.

Northern Girl
07-19-2006, 12:12 PM
and there goes this thread

Northern Girl
07-19-2006, 12:16 PM
Originally posted by THUNDER ICON!
WHO GIVES A FUCK AGAIN????

Apparently no one. :rolleyes:

MERRYKISSMASS2U
07-19-2006, 12:28 PM
Originally posted by THUNDER ICON!
LAST TIME I CHECKED, YOU HAVE TO GET LAID BEFORE YOU CAN HAVE ANY KIDS. IMAGINE EVERYONES SHOCK TO HEAR YOU ANNOUNCE THAT YOU HAVE NO KIDS. SHOCKING.

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WACF
07-19-2006, 12:33 PM
Originally posted by Northern Girl
Moral of the story? Quit marrying fucking bitches. Lots of nice girls out there.

Life can take very strange twists and turns...

I can't be the only one that believes all costs for raising a child should be split evenly between the mother and father.

A lot of people think the same as you...just not the law makers.

WACF
07-19-2006, 12:38 PM
Originally posted by Northern Girl
Well...it's a catch 22...the courts have to be this way because of all the men who don't pay child support...but a lot of the men don't pay because they feel the amount is unfair and they know that it's not going for the kid...no simple solution...I think it should be figured on an individual basis.

The courts do not have to be this way.
The majority of men do pay...and want to be a part of their childrens lives.
You become no more than a wallet and a pain in the ass because you believe your children deserve a father.

WACF
07-19-2006, 12:49 PM
Originally posted by Ally_Kat
Yeah, but if I'm only making 30grand and he's making 80grand -- you can barely pay the bills here on 30grand, nevermind having to keep my child(ren) clothed, fed, and equipped for school.

Your analogy is a good way to decide support....you take the 80 subtract 30 and you pay support on a $50,000 income. In some cases that is how it is done. My ex quit a good paying job to ensure higher monthly payments...throw in child tax credit, claiming the kids as dependants with my tax free support and she is sitting pretty good...so there are ways around it too...she is doing nothing to build a secure future though which seems short sighted.

I am on the belief that it needs to be proved where the money is going. Too many people do take advantage and try to get revenge through this. It should be about the child(ren)

I find it hard to believe that can not be done...I asked my lawyer and was told that will never happen...that was back in 99.
My girls live with me half the month and I know what I put out in support is more than it costs me as far as clothing and food/activites /school cost.

WACF
07-19-2006, 12:50 PM
Originally posted by Northern Girl
and there goes this thread

It was inevitable....

Cathedral
07-19-2006, 01:22 PM
Originally posted by Ally_Kat
Yeah, but if I'm only making 30grand and he's making 80grand -- you can barely pay the bills here on 30grand, nevermind having to keep my child(ren) clothed, fed, and equipped for school.

I am on the belief that it needs to be proved where the money is going. Too many people do take advantage and try to get revenge through this. It should be about the child(ren)

I agree, there should be accountability for these funds, just like the payee reports for social security benefits.

I had to fill out an annual report detailing where the funds were spent and i had to have reciepts to verify what i reported in case they audited me.

I have boxes and boxes full of reciepts, i don't spend a dime without getting a reciept.

Whatever funds that could not be accounted for needed to be paid back. but it was never a problem for me because i spent above and beyond those amounts taking care of both my wife and my child.

I was audited the first year, and since i kept such good records they haven't bothered me since.

A similar system should be set up for child support if one doesn't exist now.
Years ago i lived with a woman who was collecting child support and she never spent those funds on the kid.
The grand parents bought the kids clothes and paid school fee's.

It was one of the reasons i dumped her, she was on the border line of neglecting the kid.
And i went by there one night after i moved out and found out the 9 year old was home alone while that bitch was down at the corner bar.
I stayed there until the cops came and they filed the report with child services.

I understand there are dead beat Dad's out there, but the system is set up to punish all Dad's as if they were dead beats, and that isn't fair.

Also, there is a double standard because they don't sock it to the mother's who have to pay the way they do the fathers because of this percieved idea that the Dad's always make more money, so they don't award father's as much support.

The system needs to be overhauled, and those who do not pay need to go to jail, period.

bb64
07-19-2006, 04:37 PM
The funny thing is, she is currently divorcing her husband because he has stolen money from her and has a serious gambling problem...no lie. So she is worried she will lose her house not having my support coming in anymore and as I posted earlier none of my support would go to help pay for my kids college etc...(though I'd rather pride myself doing it on my own) The gambling is probably where most of the past support went but who knows:)

WACF
07-19-2006, 04:51 PM
Originally posted by bb64
So she is worried she will lose her house not having my support coming in anymore....

Emphasis mine....it says alot.

Luckily it is not your problem anymore....thankfully your kid is of college age and perhaps not affected as much by mom's decisions.

Northern Girl
07-27-2006, 02:23 PM
an email I just got...hee hee

Today is my baby girl's 18th birthday I'm so glad that this will be my
last child support payment! Month after month, year after year,
all those damn payments!

So I call my baby girl to come to my house, and when she get here,
I said, "baby girl, I want you to take this check over to your Mothers
house and tell her this will be the last check she will be gettin' from
me, and I want you to come back and tell me the expression on her
face."

So, my baby girl takes the check over to her Mother. I anxiously wait to
hear what her Mother said, and about the expression on her face. My
baby girl walked through the door, I said,
"Now what did your Mother say about that?"

She said to tell you that "you ain't my daddy"
.... and watch the expression on your face.

DlocRoth
07-27-2006, 11:20 PM
Brutal. :eek:

blonddgirl777
07-28-2006, 06:37 AM
I've said it before and I'll say it again...
In the times we live in now, nobody is forced into the marriage/kids life.


The children are the responsabilities of whoever made them...
Usually, it takes 2 people.

If y'all don't want children (and the responsabilities they come with), then use a condom or your good ol' hand!
Simple. :rolleyes:

Seshmeister
07-28-2006, 08:31 AM
Originally posted by DlocRoth
Brutal. :eek:

Studies show about 20% of dads are unknowingly bringing up other guys kids.

Women are appalling.

blonddgirl777
07-28-2006, 08:45 AM
Originally posted by Seshmeister
Studies show about 20% of dads are unknowingly bringing up other guys kids.

Women are appalling.

Studies (so does this thred), also show that a lot of natural fathers are trying to get away from their responsabilities...

Men are selfish.
Thanks for those laws!

Seshmeister
07-28-2006, 11:47 AM
I'd rather be selfish than appalling.:)

blonddgirl777
07-28-2006, 12:17 PM
Originally posted by Seshmeister
I'd rather be selfish than appalling.:)

"Selfish" when it's time to provide for your kids IS appaling!

blonddgirl777
07-28-2006, 12:18 PM
Originally posted by Seshmeister
I'd rather be selfish than appalling.:)

I'd rather be neither or... ;)

WACF
07-28-2006, 03:51 PM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Studies (so does this thred), also show that a lot of natural fathers are trying to get away from their responsabilities...

Men are selfish.
Thanks for those laws!


Bullshit.

blonddgirl777
07-29-2006, 11:23 AM
Originally posted by WACF
Bullshit.

Bullshit?

So... why do you think society HAD TO come-up with those laws????
To many men where trying to get away from reality!

Here, they will take it out of your salary... pretty pathetic that it had to come down to this.

WACF
07-29-2006, 11:47 AM
First off...there is no law stating that a father is entitled to take part in raising his children and that the children deserve a father.
You must ask...then make an agreement...if you can not a judge looks at it and decides.

It cost me thousands of dollars to have my children almost half of the month.
Only because for the woman(In most cases) the more you have the children it is easier to get bigger support.
We go from being a father to just a wallet.

Is this not extortion?

The laws came about because way back there was no support...and there should of been something.
Things got out of control.

When Anne Mclellan was justice minister she said that we can not make the laws fair for child custody because it would take the power away from women.
That tells me right there that there is no equality on the issue.
What there should be is Fairness and Equalilty.
Not what we have now.

First and foremost NOT ONE NATURAL FATHER in this thread stated that they wanted to get away from their responisbilities...and I think you would be hard pressed to find a study that stated the same.

What men talk about is that the amount in many cases is ridiculous.
I have my girls half the month and I know what I pay their mother and what I spend on them is not the same...and they are taken care of much better by me.

I do not think I have ever seen a situation where the mother actually spent all the money on the child.
I dated a few divorced moms who had average jobs but drove a lot nicer car than I did...and they all joked about it..."Oh...it's not like I had to pay for it"..hahahahha.....disgusting.

blonddgirl777
07-30-2006, 07:28 AM
Originally posted by WACF
... First and foremost NOT ONE NATURAL FATHER in this thread stated that they wanted to get away from their responisbilities...and I think you would be hard pressed to find a study that stated the same....

Come-on... get real!
And, have you read the beginings of thet thread at all?
It's all complaining...

blonddgirl777
07-30-2006, 07:35 AM
Originally posted by WACF
... The laws came about because way back there was no support...and there should of been something.
Things got out of control....

Now I agree with you on that...
I beleive that it will get fair sooner of later.

In this province, men are starting to protest for child custody.
They want more than one week-end out of 2 with their kids and I think they are entitled to that.
It would also be easier for mothers to redo their lives; new boyfriend, social life and overall free time etc...
if the fathers would take charge full time.
I would have nothing against that!

blonddgirl777
07-30-2006, 07:41 AM
Originally posted by WACF
... Is this not extortion?...

I always say that people (men and women) should really be careful and think twice before procreating...
Why would you chose an "extortionist bitch" to be the mother of your children?
Just like why would a woman chose an irresponsable, selfish prick to do so?

Now I don't have any kids yet but when I do, it will be with a "top breeder"... my husband!

WACF
07-30-2006, 11:51 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Come-on... get real!
And, have you read the beginings of thet thread at all?
It's all complaining...


No one said they did not want their responbibilty...that is your statement that I responded too.

Like I said...every natural father that posted stated the amounts were unreal...in some cases some thought it could of been worse.

WACF
07-30-2006, 11:52 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Now I agree with you on that...
I beleive that it will get fair sooner of later.

In this province, men are starting to protest for child custody.
They want more than one week-end out of 2 with their kids and I think they are entitled to that.
It would also be easier for mothers to redo their lives; new boyfriend, social life and overall free time etc...
if the fathers would take charge full time.
I would have nothing against that!

Yup....

WACF
07-30-2006, 11:53 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
I always say that people (men and women) should really be careful and think twice before procreating...
Why would you chose an "extortionist bitch" to be the mother of your children?
Just like why would a woman chose an irresponsable, selfish prick to do so?

Now I don't have any kids yet but when I do, it will be with a "top breeder"... my husband!

People change...I would of never thought that this is where my first marriage would of gone...but it did.