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Mr. Vengeance
08-06-2007, 10:10 AM
I went to my class reunion and I should have just avoided it. Not that I didn't have a good time, but there's one girl who I loved who I could never have. I've never stopped wishing I could have been with her. It's literally affected other relationships I've had, because this girl always was THE one.

She's been married a long time. Has kids. I never married or had any.

When I saw her it was as if not a day had passed. She was still beautiful and we picked up talking as if it were yesterday. During the course of the evening, she more or less told me that married life was not good, and how she always knew how I felt and that she would have wanted to be with me. Essentially the woman I always loved is telling me in not so many words, that she wished I was the one she chose.

Now I can't stop thinking about this shit. Once it's too late.

Avoid these fucking things guys.....take my pathetic life as advice.

Sigh.....

binnie
08-06-2007, 10:14 AM
Mr. V, did she indicate that she was unhappy in her married life (that seems to be what you are saying).

Is there any chance that she was giving you the green light to make a move?

This girl must be really something if you're hung up on her all of this time later...

Mr. Vengeance
08-06-2007, 10:21 AM
Originally posted by binnie
Mr. V, did she indicate that she was unhappy in her married life (that seems to be what you are saying).

Is there any chance that she was giving you the green light to make a move?

This girl must be really something if you're hung up on her all of this time later...

I'll tell you Bin, she was the one for me. Sometimes you just know, even if you're a dumb kid.

Moment I saw her, I felt exactly the same as before.

She wouldn't come right out and say it, but I'd ask her if life is good and she'd say she loves and gets happiness from her kids. When I'd ask about the husband, she would just say she'll tell me about it in detail another time. (we exchanged phone # and e-mail and such)...

I'd doubt I'd be able to go back. Too many years. She has a life and I have no life to speak of.

She kissed me nicely at the end of the night and for a second I thought about really laying one on...but didn't. I'm a pussy...someone should cyber beat my ass for it.

binnie
08-06-2007, 10:22 AM
Also (and I appreciate that this in very easy for me to say, not being in you situation), I can't stomach the idea that there is "one person" for everyone.

Relationships are what you make of them, fate or any other such notion just holds you back: sometimes you click with people striaght away, sometimes you have to work at it, but you only get out what you put in: in my experiencem they're fucking hard work, and when that work stops being worth it then it's over.

I appreicate that's easy for me to say (only being 25 and all), but don't count your chances of a meaningful relationship over because of this one girl.

Chin up Mr. V :)

binnie
08-06-2007, 10:30 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I'll tell you Bin, she was the one for me. Sometimes you just know, even if you're a dumb kid.

Moment I saw her, I felt exactly the same as before.

She wouldn't come right out and say it, but I'd ask her if life is good and she'd say she loves and gets happiness from her kids. When I'd ask about the husband, she would just say she'll tell me about it in detail another time. (we exchanged phone # and e-mail and such)...

I'd doubt I'd be able to go back. Too many years. She has a life and I have no life to speak of.

She kissed me nicely at the end of the night and for a second I thought about really laying one on...but didn't. I'm a pussy...someone should cyber beat my ass for it.

Well, when there are kids involved I'd always say that they come before the two adults, and I personally wouldn't go there.

However, maybe some of the Rotharmy girls can help you out here, because to me it sounds like she was looking for a little bit of Mr. V lovin', but I could be way off and don't want to encourage you to do something you might regret.

But dude, don't be so down on yourself. And never, ever put a woman on a pedestal until she's earned it: if you think that she's perfect at the moment you see her, and that you're not worthy by implication, you will never get anywhere. There is no such thing as a "perfect woman" or anything like that, it's whether they are perfect for you - you can only know that after a certain amount of time in a relationship, not at first sight.

But, like I say, I'm only 25: maybe my cut and dry philosophy will have become more complicated by the time I hit 40!

Crank some CVH, order a pizza, get drunk, and watch a LOT of porn, it'll cheer you up a little :)

Mr. Vengeance
08-06-2007, 10:38 AM
Oh...I got drunk....I was so pissed about what might have been.

Can't turn back that clock, dudes...

I kept thinking about that scene in A League of Their Own where Tom Hanks is talking about how he has no cartilege left in his knee from his injuries, so that's why he wasn't fighting in the war...he says at the end, "How'd I get so useless so fast?"

ALinChainz
08-06-2007, 10:59 AM
Don't give up hope dude ... all I'm gonna say.

binnie
08-06-2007, 11:01 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance

I kept thinking about that scene in A League of Their Own where Tom Hanks is talking about how he has no cartilege left in his knee from his injuries, so that's why he wasn't fighting in the war...he says at the end, "How'd I get so useless so fast?"

Dude, you're not useless.

Cliched as this is going to sound, if you don't like youself, how do you expect anyone else to. Confidence without arrogance will get you a long way with women. But being so down on youself, or insecure, will just push people away.

Seriously, you seem like a straight up guy, and a damn funny one at that. Never think of yourself as useless.

DavidLeeNatra
08-06-2007, 11:03 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I'm a pussy...someone should cyber beat my ass for it.

here you are...you are a fucking pussy and you don't deserve that girl...

you want her? go for her...no matter how many years have passed, no matter if there is a husband or kids...

she asked you to do it...or maybe she just asked you for a night to remember...

if you chose not to do it...don't cry...

and believe me...I KNOW what I'm talking about...I got a second chance with a girl I thought I lost for my life...I got a second chance now and I fight hell to never lose her again...

Mr. Vengeance
08-06-2007, 11:06 AM
Originally posted by DavidLeeNatra
here you are...you are a fucking pussy and you don't deserve that girl...

you want her? go for her...no matter how many years have passed, no matter if there is a husband or kids...

she asked you to do it...or maybe she just asked you for a night to remember...

if you chose not to do it...don't cry...

and believe me...I KNOW what I'm talking about...I got a second chance with a girl I thought I lost for my life...I got a second chance now and I fight hell to never lose her again...

I wouldn't have wanted to get between her and whatever she has going on. Yeah...I'm a pussy.

DavidLeeNatra
08-06-2007, 11:11 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I wouldn't have wanted to get between her and whatever she has going on. Yeah...I'm a pussy.

fuck it...you can't get between whatever is going on fine...it seems NOT...

so here you are...afraid of your own ass...

Hardrock69
08-06-2007, 11:20 AM
I recently found a way to get in contact with a chick I went to elementary and junior high school with.

She was nothing spectacular to look at in elementary school, and in the 7th grade she had moved away out of state. But
then on the first day of the 9th grade, as I walked up to the school entrance, there she was.

My God! What a difference! She had turned into a hottie!

So anyway, I saw her occasionally at school....never really hung out with her outside of school. I just kinda worshipped her from afar (at age 14, I was pretty shy with chicks).

So I traded a few emails with her lately. She was single all through the 80s. Got married, has some kids, seems to be doing well. She mentioned in one of the last emails she sent that she always wondered what happened to me. THAT kinda surprised me.

Oh well. I have not communicated with her since. She is happy with her life. She lives about 800 miles from me, so it is not as if I could just say let's meet at the coffeeshop for a cup of coffee....

Missed opportunities happen I suppose.

Sure woulda been nice!
:D

SparkieD
08-06-2007, 11:21 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance


She kissed me nicely at the end of the night and for a second I thought about really laying one on...but didn't. I'm a pussy...someone should cyber beat my ass for it.


Hell no they shouldn't. She's married with kids. You did the honorable thing. If you had kissed her like that, one thing could've led to another and YOU could've had a hand in breaking apart a family.

I'm not trying to bust your balls at all. If you two exchanged contact info, then she is probably interested. If there's stuff going on with her husband, let HIM be the one who fucks up the marriage. Sounds like that's the path he's already on. You can be the one to catch her when it crumbles. If the two of you have a fling, there's the possibility of her being caught and then Hubby will have leverage against her. You don't want to create problems like that for her. Also, she will undoubtedly have feelings of guilt if the marriage ends up working out and there you'll be. Lonely again, feeling worse than before and with no third chance in sight with this woman.

I hate to see a person lonely(even you, Vengie,) but if you've been hung up on her for this long, then there's a reason. Stranger things have happened than two people finally being together after many years. If it's meant to be, it will be. Something worth waiting this long for is worth taking slowly and doing right.

binnie
08-06-2007, 11:23 AM
Originally posted by DavidLeeNatra
fuck it...you can't get between whatever is going on fine...it seems NOT...

so here you are...afraid of your own ass...

A firm believer in the "tough love" aren't ya! :)

DavidLeeNatra
08-06-2007, 11:29 AM
Originally posted by binnie
A firm believer in the "tough love" aren't ya! :)

a firm believer in taking chances...

come my age, bin and you probably know what it means to have fucked up some parts of your life and get a second chance to do it right ;)

Mr. Vengeance
08-06-2007, 11:36 AM
Originally posted by binnie
A firm believer in the "tough love" aren't ya! :)

I'm fine with DLN's "tough love"...I've been kicking my own ass.

But I also agree with Sparkie. The great V may be a lot of things, but I'm not someone who does something to end a marriage, not that I think there was any legit chance of that from one kiss.

Maybe things would have escalated, and I wasn't willing to take that chance.

hideyoursheep
08-06-2007, 11:59 AM
Mr. Vengeance, You did the right thing.

Sometimes, when women get bored, they invent problems with their spouses to justify getting some, uh, you know...

Don't listen to Natra...You could very well end up Tony Soprano'd in someones trunk...

When the man is clueless as to what's happening with his wife, then finds out the hard way, some crumble and do nothing. Some will take action-not ever worth it to come between a man and his family.

You have her e-mail and phone # right? Let her contact you first. Let her be the one to break it off with him if it's so bad. Remember, they have children...The same ones that HE will be seeing if they break it off and the two of you get together. You don't want a situation like that to be bad for years. (assuming they aren't already grown)

Think long-term,my man. Don't go for the instant gratification. The two of them have to settle things between themselves, be it reconciling or divorce. You don't need to factor into that.

Everything happens for a reason, bro. You'll get yours! Just be patient.:gulp:

Mr. Vengeance
08-06-2007, 04:12 PM
Originally posted by hideyoursheep
Mr. Vengeance, You did the right thing.

Sometimes, when women get bored, they invent problems with their spouses to justify getting some, uh, you know...

Don't listen to Natra...You could very well end up Tony Soprano'd in someones trunk...

When the man is clueless as to what's happening with his wife, then finds out the hard way, some crumble and do nothing. Some will take action-not ever worth it to come between a man and his family.

You have her e-mail and phone # right? Let her contact you first. Let her be the one to break it off with him if it's so bad. Remember, they have children...The same ones that HE will be seeing if they break it off and the two of you get together. You don't want a situation like that to be bad for years. (assuming they aren't already grown)

Think long-term,my man. Don't go for the instant gratification. The two of them have to settle things between themselves, be it reconciling or divorce. You don't need to factor into that.

Everything happens for a reason, bro. You'll get yours! Just be patient.:gulp:

I don't really think it was that much of a decision. I cant imagine anything ever changing, and for the last 20 years, I've accepted it. No need to stop accepting it now.

jharp84
08-06-2007, 04:20 PM
THIS WAS A "SIGN"of possible hope!! USE YOUR GODDAMN DLR/CVH ATTITUDE AND GO GET IT!! IT might take time and strategy, BUt "you only live twice" DLR-YFLM(can't remember which song) I have had some hard times with babes because the "nice guy" vibe! Give it a shot! What to lose?????????????

Mr. Vengeance
08-06-2007, 04:42 PM
Originally posted by jharp84
Give it a shot! What to lose?????????????

My self respect.

jharp84
08-06-2007, 04:45 PM
Dude! Do what you have to, if that's the case, that's fine w/me, I just feel if she's not happy now, she will eventually leave the dude and by that time you may not have another chance! RESPECT!!! CVH2007

jhale667
08-06-2007, 05:33 PM
I agree with those who advised against doing the home-wrecker thing.
You don't want that eventual karma-bomb showing up in your mailbox...
If you exchanged info with her, yeah, she's interested. But let her initiate. She's the one with the baggage to deal with.

I skipped my reunion. Fuck a bunch of that noise. ;)

Nitro Express
08-06-2007, 05:43 PM
No shit. The last one of mine I was in Hawaii and missed it. Went to my wive's reunion in Seattle and what a keep up with the Jones fest that was.

Then some old boyfriend of my wife started hitting on her. Mr. numbnuts was divorced and lonely.

My sister started being stalked by someone she met at her reunion. The guy threatened to kidnap her when she was 17. Then she ran into the loser 20 years later and the twice divorced fool found her again and started stalking. He's in prison now I guess for beating the shit out of his exwife or something.

Nitro Express
08-06-2007, 05:46 PM
I really didn't like high school and preffer to leave it in the rear view mirror. College was fun. I'm involved in the Alumni Association.

Ally_Kat
08-06-2007, 06:21 PM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
But I also agree with Sparkie. The great V may be a lot of things, but I'm not someone who does something to end a marriage, not that I think there was any legit chance of that from one kiss.


I sorta agree with Sparkie, too. However, it sounds as if the marriage may already be over. I've seen and heard many women sticking with a bad marriage because they'll feel like bad mothers if they disrupt their children's lives. And we can't just say she is inventing these issues without hearing what these details are.

I would deffy keep in touch. We don't know -- you might be, in fact, catching her as it all crumbles and get your second chance. Fate might be dealing you a card to play your hand. I never fully stood behind the "if it's meant to be, it'll be" saying. You have to participate in your fate.

But yeah, I was just start chatting her. Maybe an email here and there. No frequent phone unless stuff is crumbling/crumbled.

Viking
08-06-2007, 08:24 PM
I avoided my 5th. And 10th. And 15th. And 20th. And 25th. And I'll continue to do so. I stay in contact with one buddy from my high school days, and he stated it clearly a few years ago: why go back just to see the same assholes we went out of our way to avoid to begin with? If there's anyone we wanted to stay in touch with since then, we've done it. Nobody wants to see fat, balding jocks trying to act 'cool' again, nor does anyone want to see an ex-cheerleader-turned-Large-Marge pretending she's still part of the 'in-crowd'. They all just spend 20 minutes making small talk, anyway, then gravitate towards the little cliques they inhabited 30 years ago.

chi-town324
08-06-2007, 08:43 PM
never have or will go to any high school reunions...couldnt stand most of em back then...25 plus yrs ago...Mr V...keep in touch with her...but from a far for now...if its meant to be it will happen, but dont wait around for her, life is way to short.

Tiki-Tom
08-06-2007, 10:57 PM
You've earned a grain of respect from me for the admirable way you've handled this situation thus far. If I were in your shoes I'd be there for her when needed and hopefully reap the benefits later. Don't wedge yourself into a mess like that. You want her kids to like you, not think you're the one who stole Mommy from Daddy. They are gonna be a factor one way or another be it on your end or her having to deal with its effect on her life and theirs.

Anyhow, best o' luck to ya. It could be nothing or the best thing to happen to you. If the spark's still there, it's just a matter of how well you handle it. You seem to be moving forward with a lot of care so far and thats speaks volumes.

Hardrock69
08-06-2007, 11:41 PM
Here. A single sentence will suffice:

You can't go home again.

blonddgirl777
08-06-2007, 11:54 PM
Originally posted by SparkieD
Hell no they shouldn't. She's married with kids. You did the honorable thing. If you had kissed her like that, one thing could've led to another and YOU could've had a hand in breaking apart a family.

I'm not trying to bust your balls at all. If you two exchanged contact info, then she is probably interested. If there's stuff going on with her husband, let HIM be the one who fucks up the marriage. Sounds like that's the path he's already on. You can be the one to catch her when it crumbles. If the two of you have a fling, there's the possibility of her being caught and then Hubby will have leverage against her. You don't want to create problems like that for her. Also, she will undoubtedly have feelings of guilt if the marriage ends up working out and there you'll be. Lonely again, feeling worse than before and with no third chance in sight with this woman.

I hate to see a person lonely(even you, Vengie,) but if you've been hung up on her for this long, then there's a reason. Stranger things have happened than two people finally being together after many years. If it's meant to be, it will be. Something worth waiting this long for is worth taking slowly and doing right.


Exaclty what she said...
Binni's input is also excellent.






Little ol' romantic sentimental me has goose bumps just reading your story Mr.V.! :(




Cheer up, if you never end up gettin' HER... there is certainly a Mrs.V. looking for you somewhere... ;)

Nitro Express
08-07-2007, 01:33 AM
Originally posted by Viking
I avoided my 5th. And 10th. And 15th. And 20th. And 25th. And I'll continue to do so. I stay in contact with one buddy from my high school days, and he stated it clearly a few years ago: why go back just to see the same assholes we went out of our way to avoid to begin with? If there's anyone we wanted to stay in touch with since then, we've done it. Nobody wants to see fat, balding jocks trying to act 'cool' again, nor does anyone want to see an ex-cheerleader-turned-Large-Marge pretending she's still part of the 'in-crowd'. They all just spend 20 minutes making small talk, anyway, then gravitate towards the little cliques they inhabited 30 years ago.

Mine always seem to happen the year I'm on vacation. I would rather spend the day scuba diving off of Maui, eat sushi with my wife, and then have sex and kick it in the big jaccuzzi buzzed on champaign than to relive high school again. I was so fucking bored my senor year, I just got drunk all the time to cope with it. I got an A in physics and I don't think I was sober during any of it. What a joke.

DavidLeeNatra
08-07-2007, 05:07 AM
I have to admit that I enjoyed it everytime...I felt the same about class reunions like most of you but went anyway...

I still play with my schoolband from 1984 and if we do gigs it's always like small class reunions...many of the old folks come and we have a good time...

and for the girls...some aged well ;)

Jérôme Frenchise
08-07-2007, 06:29 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
Essentially the woman I always loved is telling me in not so many words, that she wished I was the one she chose.

Now I can't stop thinking about this shit. Once it's too late.

Damn... :(

Fate can be a real bitch, stabbing you that cruelly all of a sudden. The vertigo you felt must have been quite unbearable, really.
I sincerely hope you could get over it ever since, and if you haven't yet, that you will. :cool:


Originally posted by Viking
I stay in contact with one buddy from my high school days, and he stated it clearly a few years ago: why go back just to see the same assholes we went out of our way to avoid to begin with? If there's anyone we wanted to stay in touch with since then, we've done it. Nobody wants to see fat, balding jocks trying to act 'cool' again, nor does anyone want to see an ex-cheerleader-turned-Large-Marge pretending she's still part of the 'in-crowd'.

:D I said more or less the same to some of my current friends (been pals for 7 years), about some junk mail I opened a few weeks ago, proposing ex-schoolmate reunions ("Meet your ex-schoolmates again"... :rolleyes: ).

A set of pics showing 30-40-year-old folks looking cheesy...
I mean, there was a time in my life when I could feel nostalgic about my school days, but now I've definitely drawn the curtain on them. So, as hard as I can, I avoid seeing those persons I used to know. It's a pain to notice those goddamn crow's-feet at the corner of an ex-g/f's eyes, or the apalling baldness on the head of an "old" pal who, at that, would have become some kind of a gramp...
That kind of gathering will make it obvious, as if necessary, that nobody ever "grows young". You find the folks got swallowed up by the reality of life, some have become duller than Chamallows - they often lost their singularity, if they ever had any.
Those meetings can but bring you down, IMO. :cool:

BALLYJUNKIE
08-07-2007, 07:10 AM
Got a pic of this girl in the high school yearbook? we would all be interested in seeing it !!! .......... what year did you graduate ?

blonddgirl777
08-07-2007, 07:47 AM
Originally posted by BALLYJUNKIE
Got a pic of this girl in the high school yearbook? we would all be interested in seeing it !!! ..........

Sure but... :confused:

BITEYOASS
08-07-2007, 11:14 AM
I'll be going to my 15'th reunion wearing a leather jacket, grow some long hair, have some stubble on my face and wear steel toe boots. Oh yeah and probably wear no shirt under my jacket.

blonddgirl777
08-07-2007, 11:16 AM
[i]...A set of pics showing 30-40-year-old folks looking cheesy...
I mean, there was a time in my life when I could feel nostalgic about my school days, but now I've definitely drawn the curtain on them. So, as hard as I can, I avoid seeing those persons I used to know. It's a pain to notice those goddamn crow's-feet at the corner of an ex-g/f's eyes, or the apalling baldness on the head of an "old" pal who, at that, would have become some kind of a gramp... [/B]


I've also seen people that used to be cool and beautiful and that are now fat and ugly with a bitter attitude towards life and all... Not the kind of people you'd want to hang out with, anymore...

In a way (I know this is weird but) it would have been better for Mr.V. if that woman would have turned out "bad", after all these years...

It might sound mean for her but at least, the poor guy wouldn't be all sad and beating himself up today! :confused:
He would have probably come back home thinking; "Thank God I didn't marry that one...!"
The search for THE WWWOMMMANNN wouldn't be tinted by her anymore...

blonddgirl777
08-07-2007, 11:19 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Sure but... :confused:

I just think it would be a rude thing to do but I too, would like to see that!

blonddgirl777
08-07-2007, 11:25 AM
Originally posted by BITEYOASS
I'll be going to my 15'th reunion wearing a leather jacket, grow some long hair, have some stubble on my face and wear steel toe boots. Oh yeah and probably wear no shirt under my jacket.


I'll be wearing nothing!
I won't go!
Missed the 5th., the 10th., and... the 20th....

I went to Catholic high school with nuns and a bunch of *snobby bitches that had absolutely nothing to say back then...

Fuck them all!

The only reason I would go back is to piss'em off... and God knows I would!
So why bother? :o




* They used to mock me and my middle class friends... :mad:

Jérôme Frenchise
08-07-2007, 11:49 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
I've also seen people that used to be cool and beautiful and that are now fat and ugly with a bitter attitude towards life and all... Not the kind of people you'd want to hang out with, anymore...

I agree, once the good looks and coolness, if there ever were any... In addition, if it's seeing the (sometimes) damage of a 15 or 20-year gap, it may feel like getting hit by a 40-ton truck driving at 80 mp/h. :eek:
We don't see ourselves grow as old as others. I think I manage rather well myself, so meeting people my age whose faces are on their way to ruin and whose bodies look closer to those of the retired than the ones they had back in their primes... Well, no thanks. :cool:



Originally posted by blonddgirl777
In a way (I know this is weird but) it would have been better for Mr.V. if that woman would have turned out "bad", after all these years...

Sure. I imagine, then:

Her: Hey, Mr V.! So nice to see you again! Weren't you in love with me back in the days?
Mr V.: Who, me? N-n-not at all. You must be mistaken. Must be the other guy over there, er, what's his name already?

:D


Originally posted by blonddgirl777
It might sound mean for her but at least, the poor guy wouldn't be all sad and beating himself up today! :confused:
He would have probably come back home thinking; "Thank God I didn't marry that one...!"
The search for THE WWWOMMMANNN wouldn't be tinted by her anymore...

It's awful, really. Never really got over it, and now it's getting even harder... Makes you feel giddy as hell. :eek:

blonddgirl777
08-07-2007, 11:50 AM
Originally posted by Jérôme Frenchise
... nobody ever "grows young"...

Nobody... except for you and I, Jérôme! :cool: :D :rolleyes: L.O.L.

blonddgirl777
08-07-2007, 11:53 AM
"I agree, once the good looks and coolness, if there ever were any... In addition, if it's seeing the (sometimes) damage of a 15 or 20-year gap may feel like getting hit by a 40-ton truck driving at 80 mp/h.
We don't see ourselves grow as old as others. I think I manage rather well myself, so meeting people my age whose faces are on their way to ruin and whose bodies look closer to those of retired than the ones they had back in their primes... Well, no thanks."


I don't remember postin that one J.... MMmmmm... ????

blonddgirl777
08-07-2007, 11:56 AM
Originally posted by Jérôme Frenchise
... It's awful, really. Never really got over it, and now it's getting even harder... Makes you feel giddy as hell. :eek:


I'll say it again;

There is... I'm sure THERE IS, a Mrs.V. out there that will make him understand why, life didn't "allow" them to get together before... that Mrs.V. will be eaven better than the high school sweet heart!

Sometimes, we have to beleive that "things happen for a reason"... as corny as it may sound!

Jérôme Frenchise
08-07-2007, 12:24 PM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Nobody... except for you and I, Jérôme! :cool: :D :rolleyes: L.O.L.

True! :D


Originally posted by blonddgirl777
I don't remember postin that one J.... MMmmmm... ????

Sorry, I did some copy/paste mistake. :o

Quite a lot of guys who got married when they were very young, I mean not all of them of course, often missed some time to develop their personalities. So they slowly grow old from a basis that could have been better, had they waited a little - well, OK, fate won't wait. At least it's something I like to think about, to cheer up. :D


Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Sometimes, we have to beleive that "things happen for a reason"... as corny as it may sound!

Sounds great to me. :)
One thing is sure: whatever has happened cannot not have happened - it could have or ought to have, but we know there's only one path for us to take. So if what didn't happen at some time or other in our lives didn't, it was certainly for something else to take place. Then the idea of an underlying scheme in the course of events is very pleasant. :)
I do hope as well for Mr V. to find his "second half" soon enough, thinking of all those paths he took that eventually led him to her (sorry if I sound a bit cheesy here, I didn't mean to :D). :cool:

blonddgirl777
08-07-2007, 12:28 PM
Originally posted by Jérôme Frenchise
... We don't see ourselves grow as old as others. I think I manage rather well myself, so meeting people my age whose faces are on their way to ruin and whose bodies look closer to those of the retired than the ones they had back in their primes... Well, no thanks. :cool:...

I've seen people from elementary school, girls from high school, years later...

Most of them don't necessarely look bad but they manage to look old and passé... you know; the "mommy jeans", the "mommy hair", the little belly, listening to complaint Rock and the whole attitude to match all that...

I am proud to say that I managed to stay young (for what it's worth at 40 yrs old) if only for the fact that I can still bang head at a Heavy Metal concert without feeling silly at all! :p

Jérôme Frenchise
08-07-2007, 12:32 PM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
I am proud to say that I managed to stay young

Wrong. You didn't manage at all... :cool:





You ARE young. :)

blonddgirl777
08-07-2007, 01:15 PM
Originally posted by Nitro Express
Mine always seem to happen the year I'm on vacation. I would rather spend the day scuba diving off of Maui, eat sushi with my wife, and then have sex and kick it in the big jaccuzzi buzzed on champaign than to relive high school again...

Nhaaa... really??? :p

blonddgirl777
08-07-2007, 01:16 PM
Originally posted by Jérôme Frenchise
Wrong. You didn't manage at all... :cool:





You ARE young. :)

Ho Jérôme... you French man!!! :D

hideyoursheep
08-07-2007, 01:20 PM
Age is just a number...

Mine is unlisted.

Honestly, thinking old will slow you down quicker than being old.

I lived a rough lifestyle for a stretch...hard telling what condition I would be in had it continued..

I went to my 10th back in '93. I had finished a band practice and was as fucked up as Hogan's goat when I got there. I saw alot of people who I thought were assholes turn out to be pretty cool there. I saw the girl who had a thing for me (she said) and she looked damn good, but was married and her husband constantly gave me the stinkeye.


But there was another...she was not married. I had been divorced for 2 years. She was always hot, but always had a boyfriend. I never knew she liked me. She was supposed to be one of the "good girls" in school-we never spoke, except for about 2 minutes when I escorted her onto the field with another teammate during halftime.



I got home about 8:30 am the next day.

She called once, but we were always too busy with our own shit, so nothing ever came of it. That, and she lived in fucking Hawaii.

But it was a good experience.

We were way too different to be an "item", anyway.

That, and I really was fucked up 90% of the time back then.

Mr. Vengeance
08-07-2007, 06:08 PM
I appreciate all the comments. I'm just going to lay back. I mean, I managed to get by all this time without it changing what I do in life, I can't let this change me either.

I was just happy to see her again, and I should be content with that. If she calls, she calls. I'd frankly just love to sit down and chat for a few hours alone, without having other former friends/classmates coming by and interrupting.

I had to laugh at one point when my old friends, after watching the two of us talk for a bit, commented "There's some kind of chemistry still there." No shit.....I couldn't have been more enamoured.

I know two things because of this whole situation:

1) There's such a thing as love at first sight. I loved her right off.

2) I was right all this time thinking she was the one. No one else ever made me feel this way since then, until I saw her again.

I'm such a pussy.

SparkieD
08-07-2007, 06:17 PM
I grew up in a very small southern town. I was the only metal-head for miles. I had a lot of friends but there were a lot of snobby types who liked to talk shit about me because I didn't dress like them.

I've been fortunate enough to keep in pretty close contact with most of my friends from back then, but I did go to my class reunion. I wanted every motherfucker there to see how I didn't look a day older and how well I had done for myself. It was great to look down on all those snotty little bitches who once looked down on me because I was (and still am) a rock-n-roll chick. It was the the ultimate "fuck you!"

Nitro Express
08-08-2007, 06:35 AM
My dad is almost 80 and still organizes his class reunion. His class or what's left of them seems to have something special going. It's a big thing.

My generation seems to hate high school reunions. I mean the people that were important then you still keep in touch with. I was mostly bored in high school. I probably could have gone to college my junior year and done just fine. I just took honors classes so I could get college credit and drank and partied a lot. I just felt stuck in high school and that's probably why I don't care to remember those days.

College on the other hand is where I was discovering myself and life. I really wish I would have sat out of college for a year or two and just enjoyed my late teens and 20's. It's the time to do it because later life is spent raising children and by the time you get rid of them you are an old fart.

Nitro Express
08-08-2007, 06:46 AM
Age is just a number. My brother dropped dead in his living room from a heart attack at 52. He was an energetic, happy guy who was not overwieght or out of shape.

I had a good friend in 9th grade collapse and die and they never could figure out what she died from.

So I know we can go at any moment and anyone who thinks they are going to live to be old has an unrealistic view of the world. You don't know when your number gets called. Period.

People who say they are going to be happy when this and that happens are dumb. Be the happiest you can be know. If you fucked up so what. Tommorrow is a brand new day. Dwelling on the past is worthless. You hopefully learn from past mistakes but dwelling on past glories and memories too much just leaves you in the past.

It's a tough world and always has been. I'm tired of all the negative people griping about how things are going to hell. They have been going to hell nonstop since the earth began. There's always been war, famine, murder, rape and such. With over six billion people on the planet you run a fairly good chance that most of the bad shit will happen to someone else.

blonddgirl777
08-08-2007, 07:10 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
... "There's some kind of chemistry still there." No shit.....I couldn't have been more enamoured.

I know two things because of this whole situation:

1) There's such a thing as love at first sight. I loved her right off.

2) I was right all this time thinking she was the one. No one else ever made me feel this way since then, until I saw her again...


... Goose Bumps! :(


Cheer up! :)

blonddgirl777
08-08-2007, 07:21 AM
Originally posted by SparkieD
I grew up in a very small southern town. I was the only metal-head for miles. I had a lot of friends but there were a lot of snobby types who liked to talk shit about me because I didn't dress like them.

I've been fortunate enough to keep in pretty close contact with most of my friends from back then, but I did go to my class reunion. I wanted every motherfucker there to see how I didn't look a day older and how well I had done for myself. It was great to look down on all those snotty little bitches who once looked down on me because I was (and still am) a rock-n-roll chick. It was the the ultimate "fuck you!"

You and I... I tell ya! L.O.L.


Didn't it feel good to show those beige ignorants that tatooed Metal chicks can do very well for themselves, in life?

I really should have gone back for the sole reason of pissing them off and show them how "Metal Head who dressed differently on civic days" turned out...

But I thought... why bother, they where (ans still are) worth nothing to me!

Golden AWe
08-08-2007, 07:22 AM
I'd really like to have a upper secondary school reunion (ages 16-18). There were 5 guys and 20 chicks on my class.

Wawazat
08-08-2007, 07:30 AM
Originally posted by SparkieD
I wanted every motherfucker there to see how I didn't look a day older and how well I had done for myself. It was great to look down on all those snotty little bitches who once looked down on me because I was (and still am) a rock-n-roll chick. It was the the ultimate "fuck you!"

Selfish, arrogant, excellent !!

:D

*****

hideyoursheep
08-08-2007, 09:03 AM
Originally posted by Nitro Express
Age is just a number. My brother dropped dead in his living room from a heart attack at 52. He was an energetic, happy guy who was not overwieght or out of shape.

I had a good friend in 9th grade collapse and die and they never could figure out what she died from.

So I know we can go at any moment and anyone who thinks they are going to live to be old has an unrealistic view of the world. You don't know when your number gets called. Period.

People who say they are going to be happy when this and that happens are dumb. Be the happiest you can be know. If you fucked up so what. Tommorrow is a brand new day. Dwelling on the past is worthless. You hopefully learn from past mistakes but dwelling on past glories and memories too much just leaves you in the past.

It's a tough world and always has been. I'm tired of all the negative people griping about how things are going to hell. They have been going to hell nonstop since the earth began. There's always been war, famine, murder, rape and such. With over six billion people on the planet you run a fairly good chance that most of the bad shit will happen to someone else.

Preach it, brother.:cato2:

Ellyllions
08-08-2007, 09:42 AM
Damn, there was this one guy... (fall of 1987 to be exact)he was the sweetest, most excellent, down-to-earth boy I thought I'd ever meet.

Our children have the same name. No coincidence. He asked one of my cousin's what I'd named my boy and then named his son the same name.

We passed each other on the road almost every morning while I was in college...and he bought his wife an exact replica of my car.

I've talked to him a couple of times throughout the years, and every time he'd say things to remind me that we should've been together.

For YEARS (up until about 6 years ago) I really believed that I'd missed a great train because I didn't do what I wanted to do and did what was "right".

But 6 years ago...I came to realize how while he might've been perfect for the 17 year old me, he wouldn't be perfect for the 31 year old me. I was so immature back then that I don't know how I managed to stay alive to this point. So even though a part of me still believes that he's a great guy and that we would've had a lot of fun together...the reality is that the best part of that relationship is probably what we're both imagining and not what it really would've been.

Jérôme Frenchise
08-08-2007, 10:22 AM
Originally posted by Ellyllions
even though a part of me still believes that he's a great guy and that we would've had a lot of fun together...the reality is that the best part of that relationship is probably what we're both imagining and not what it really would've been.

Your whole story, the conclusion above all, seems to be exactly what Mr V. needs to hear...
I agree, it always looks all fine "by the book" but an alternate path that was missed or just not chosen wouldn't have necessarily been idyllic like you'd idealize it.

Ellyllions
08-08-2007, 10:25 AM
The dream is always better....

blonddgirl777
08-08-2007, 11:50 AM
Originally posted by Jérôme Frenchise
Your whole story, the conclusion above all, seems to be exactly what Mr V. needs to hear...
I agree, it always looks all fine "by the book" but an alternate path that was missed or just not chosen wouldn't have necessarily been idyllic like you'd idealize it.

Yes, it is exaclty the way to describe what I meant by: "Things happen for a reason"!

blonddgirl777
08-08-2007, 11:54 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
... I'm such a pussy.

Again...
Maybe you didn't find the strenght within, maybe life is trying to protect you from a bigger broken heart :confused:

Think about it this way and don't beat yourself up! :o

Ally_Kat
08-08-2007, 01:35 PM
Originally posted by Ellyllions

Our children have the same name. No coincidence. He asked one of my cousin's what I'd named my boy and then named his son the same name.

We passed each other on the road almost every morning while I was in college...and he bought his wife an exact replica of my car.


No offense, but that would creep me out a lil bit if a guy did that to me. Even more so if I was his wife.

Ellyllions
08-08-2007, 04:58 PM
None taken.

If I'd been his wife I'd been some kinda pissed off. But I'm guessing that she had no clue.

He wasn't creepy, just "smitten"...and just as "lost" as I was. But I was in a relationship when he wasn't and wouldn't dump my then boyfriend just to date someone else. Plus we lived in a very small town so it wasn't hard to keep up with the comings and goings of life.

SparkieD
08-08-2007, 05:24 PM
Originally posted by Ellyllions
The dream is always better....


Usually, but not always.

It seems that a lot in here think Vengie should give up all hope. I think he should be cautious but optimistic.

There's some reason that he's still single and still carrying a torch for this girl. He might just be her knight in shining armor and she's waiting to be rescued:)

I'm not saying life is a fairy tale, but sometimes, it can be:)

Ally_Kat
08-08-2007, 05:58 PM
Originally posted by Ellyllions

He wasn't creepy, just "smitten"

I wouldn't label actively seeking out my kid's name so he could name his the same one as "smitten", but if you're cool with it...

Ellyllions
08-08-2007, 06:11 PM
I appreciate what you're saying, but I worked at the local PD..if I thought he was someone to be worried about, I wouldn't have hesitated.

Besides, we're over 200 miles apart now, he's happily married with 2 kids and a Deacon at his church where his daddy preaches. I'm ecstatically married and today was the first time I'd thought about him in 6 years.

It's all good....

Baby's On Fire
08-08-2007, 08:17 PM
Originally posted by DavidLeeNatra
here you are...you are a fucking pussy and you don't deserve that girl...

you want her? go for her...no matter how many years have passed, no matter if there is a husband or kids...

she asked you to do it...or maybe she just asked you for a night to remember...

if you chose not to do it...don't cry...

and believe me...I KNOW what I'm talking about...I got a second chance with a girl I thought I lost for my life...I got a second chance now and I fight hell to never lose her again...

That's exactly right!

V stop being such a fucking pussy. Go get the chick. Grow some balls. If you can't grow any balls you can borrow mine. I have big brass brontosaurus balls. She'll like them.

Now stop whining an be a man......

Dan
08-08-2007, 08:21 PM
At The End Of The Day,It's Up To Mr V What He Wants To Do.

TAKIN WHISKEY
08-08-2007, 08:25 PM
Originally posted by SparkieD
Hell no they shouldn't. She's married with kids. You did the honorable thing. If you had kissed her like that, one thing could've led to another and YOU could've had a hand in breaking apart a family.

I'm not trying to bust your balls at all. If you two exchanged contact info, then she is probably interested. If there's stuff going on with her husband, let HIM be the one who fucks up the marriage. Sounds like that's the path he's already on. You can be the one to catch her when it crumbles. If the two of you have a fling, there's the possibility of her being caught and then Hubby will have leverage against her. You don't want to create problems like that for her. Also, she will undoubtedly have feelings of guilt if the marriage ends up working out and there you'll be. Lonely again, feeling worse than before and with no third chance in sight with this woman.

I hate to see a person lonely(even you, Vengie,) but if you've been hung up on her for this long, then there's a reason. Stranger things have happened than two people finally being together after many years. If it's meant to be, it will be. Something worth waiting this long for is worth taking slowly and doing right.


Hey, Mr. V Exactly what SparkieD said. My exact thoughts.

Baby's On Fire
08-08-2007, 08:26 PM
He asked for advice so let's give it to him.

V: If you don't take the 2nd opprtunity you have been afforded, you will regret it forever. Nothing is more expensive or heart-wrenching than regret.

Go get her!!

Mr. Vengeance
08-08-2007, 08:49 PM
I'm going to let her decide what she wants. Then I'll go from there.

But, I don't carry a torch, per se. I just know that she's the one I always wanted. It hasn't stopped me from dating. I just know that when I think of her, no one else ever comes close.

SparkieD
08-08-2007, 09:01 PM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I'm going to let her decide what she wants. Then I'll go from there.

But, I don't carry a torch, per se. I just know that she's the one I always wanted. It hasn't stopped me from dating. I just know that when I think of her, no one else ever comes close.

Well, nobody said sit around lonely and miserable. Like I said, be cautiously optimistic. Don't twiddle your thumbs waiting for her, but don't write her off either.

jhale667
08-08-2007, 09:17 PM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777


I went to Catholic high school with nuns and a bunch of *snobby bitches that had absolutely nothing to say back then...

Fuck them all!

The only reason I would go back is to piss'em off... and God knows I would!
So why bother? :o

* They used to mock me and my middle class friends... :mad:

Same here. Now they all ask the only person I still keep in touch with how I am, and he tells me they're all jealous now because I still have a full head of (long)hair, didn't get fat, and ended up living in LA and (for a time) working for rock stars. Oh yeah, and that I didn't get married and thus (occasionally) still get to bang 20-somethings. :D
But like I said, fuck a bunch of that noise. Didn't like most of them THEN, so have no use for them NOW.

And again, Mr V, keep in touch, but let HER initiate anything...

Mr. Vengeance
08-08-2007, 10:16 PM
Originally posted by SparkieD
Well, nobody said sit around lonely and miserable. Like I said, be cautiously optimistic. Don't twiddle your thumbs waiting for her, but don't write her off either.

Just playing it cool...

My dream: She leaves the husband, comes to me, and we have our first official outing as a new couple at the VH reunion concert.

FUCKIN' A!!!!!!

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 01:25 AM
Originally posted by SparkieD
... There's some reason that he's still single and still carrying a torch for this girl. He might just be her knight in shining armor and she's waiting to be rescued:)

I'm not saying life is a fairy tale, but sometimes, it can be:)

Yes, yes.... YES!!!

ace diamond
08-09-2007, 01:32 AM
hey mr.v.......look on the bright side.....it could always be worse.

i have not gotten laid in a year. i just had my 30th b-day july 2nd,and i could not even get laid on my birthday. so i just got drunk as fuck with some of my buddies and cranked out cvh and a ton of other great tunes instead. what else could i do?

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 01:37 AM
Originally posted by Baby's On Fire
... V: If you don't take the 2nd opprtunity you have been afforded, you will regret it forever. Nothing is more expensive or heart-wrenching than regret.

Go get her!!

Yes and no...

I think that he made it very clear (to her) that he is interested and that there is a chemistry between the 2...

Now like Sparkie said; Let HER and her husband end the relationship before. I think that living in the shadow of an EX that hasn't totally been put behind can be dangerous...
Some people can't put the past behind them as easily as others (in her case, her family...), no matter how bad the situation has turned into!

Mr. V's heart can be seriously hurt, if he turns out to be just "a short adventure" in her miserable relationship...

Sure, some of you guys will say; "Hell, bang the girl as much as you can and whatever..." but I think that Mr. V is a little too vulnerable to play that game with that particular woman at this time!

"You can't hurry love, noooo you just have to wait..."!!!

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 01:40 AM
Originally posted by ace diamond
... i have not gotten laid in a year....

Now, those goose bumps again! :eek: :(

ace diamond
08-09-2007, 01:53 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Now, those goose bumps again! :eek: :(


?????

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 01:56 AM
Originally posted by ace diamond
?????

Sorry... I, personally cannot imagine going that long without doing it! :confused:

I didn't mean to offend you... :(

ace diamond
08-09-2007, 02:08 AM
actually.....the explaination was allo i was after. not offended.
i have gone much longer in the past. stretches of 3 or 4 years.

i'm short, fat, and fucking ugly. i am a loser. nobody wants me.

oh well. i'll live.

and on the topic of this thread......there is no amount of money that would ever get me to go to a class reunion. why the fuck should i bother with a bunch of stuck up snobs that made my life very miserable. better to let sleeping dogs lie.....no point whipping a dead horse.

what's done is done.

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 02:16 AM
There is "something" about this thread...

Uff!!!

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 02:20 AM
Originally posted by ace diamond
... i'm short, fat, and fucking ugly. i am a loser. nobody wants me...

"IIIiiiiiiii... ain't got nobooooody, nobody, cares for me, nooooboooody, nooooboooody..."

Come on! :o


In French, we say: "Each cloth has it's rag"...
Now, YOU go and find that rag! :mad: (Whip, whip...)!!!

ace diamond
08-09-2007, 02:34 AM
Originally posted by ace diamond
actually.....the explaination was allo i was after. not offended.
i have gone much longer in the past. stretches of 3 or 4 years.

i'm short, fat, and fucking ugly. i am a loser. nobody wants me.

oh well. i'll live.

and on the topic of this thread......there is no amount of money that would ever get me to go to a class reunion. why the fuck should i bother with a bunch of stuck up snobs that made my life very miserable. better to let sleeping dogs lie.....no point whipping a dead horse.

what's done is done.

but on the bright side of things, i have not changed or aged one bit since highschool. i'm still a crazy long-haired headbanging hessian metalhead.....LONG LIVE THE EARLY 1980'S!!!!!!
i could care less about anything after that. and i graduated early....before the rest of my class.

the school district did not like the idea of me going to summer school to get my last 10 credits and graduate as a junior.
no, the fuckers made me go another semester.
so i said fine......instead of just getting my 230 credits in 3 years, i got 255 in 3&1/2. my high school diploma actually states that the date
of my graduation is"this day,the 27th of january,1995."
only 2 other people have that.1 was half a year late(retard),the other also early,but a foriegn exchange student from mexico.
biggest graduating class in the school's history,at that point- that year nearly 800.i was #76.
Ontario High School,Ontario-CA
i told those fucking bastards i would be a rock musician and a movie actor.......and ohhh how they laughed at me. now that i am still blissfully unmarried,i have made 2 cd's of my own stuff,on local punks records(although my record deal expires in november), and i just did a supporting role in an independent horror film with doug jones and reggie bannister, as well as a few of my good buddies.....called "carnies".

HE WHO LAUGHS LAST-LAUGHS LOUDEST........SO TELL ME,WHO IS LAUGHING NOW? ME-THAT'S WHO!
they can all lick my balls!

ace diamond
08-09-2007, 02:40 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
"IIIiiiiiiii... ain't got nobooooody, nobody, cares for me, nooooboooody, nooooboooody..."

Come on! :o


In French, we say: "Each cloth has it's rag"...
Now, YOU go and find that rag! :mad: (Whip, whip...)!!!

i'm just a gigalo.....that was a part of my joke.....glad you know the part where i was sayin'......there will come a day when my youth will pass away....what will they say about me?

when my end comes i know i was just a gigalo.....and the show goes on, without paul stanley-cause..........i've got and accelerated heart beat......won't some sweet nurse,come and climb up on me,cause gene's a greedy asshole......alll of the time.....oh shit my heartbeat.....this nurse is riding on my meat........bitch got on her knees to blow me! hoo-rah!

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 02:46 AM
Originally posted by ace diamond
... HE WHO LAUGHS LAST-LAUGHS LOUDEST........SO TELL ME,WHO IS LAUGHING NOW? ME-THAT'S WHO!
they can all lick my balls!

Now THAT's the spirit! :killer:

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 02:49 AM
Originally posted by ace diamond
i'm just a gigalo.....that was a part of my joke.....glad you know the part where i was sayin'......there will come a day when my youth will pass away....what will they say about me?

when my end comes i know i was just a gigalo.....and the show goes on, without paul stanley-cause..........i've got and accelerated heart beat......won't some sweet nurse,come and climb up on me,cause gene's a greedy asshole......alll of the time.....oh shit my heartbeat.....this nurse is riding on my meat........bitch got on her knees to blow me! hoo-rah!

Hey you; "short, fat and ugly"... you sure can make a woman laugh!!! :lol:

ace diamond
08-09-2007, 03:18 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Now THAT's the spirit! :killer:

i know-merci!

ace diamond
08-09-2007, 03:19 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Hey you; "short, fat and ugly"... you sure can make a woman laugh!!! :lol:

:D

ace diamond
08-09-2007, 03:27 AM
I'M AN SMF!

binnie
08-09-2007, 04:48 AM
Reading this thread, I find it interesting (but also a little distressing) that so many of you had a hard time at school for being yourselves. It's 10 or 20 years later and then is still an undercurrent of resentment towards things that happened that early in your lives. Would you say that your whole lives have been shaped by High School experiences?

I too was the only metal kid in school and I also had a brain, which could make life tough at my school: "You want to do something with your life? What a loser" (logic never was these peoples' strong suit!). Yeah there were gibes, and teasing and so on, but I wouldn't say I was tramatized by it. I usually had a better come-back than the guy/gril insulting me, and I also didn't value their opinion, even at 13 I just didn't care what people thought about me.

As a resuly, I had a great time in school, especially the last two years when most of the retards had left anyway (in the UK 16 is the normal age ot leave school, anything beyond that is classed as "higher" education). At some point down the line, I'd love to see some of those people again (the ones I'm not still in touch with) just to see how they turned out and so on. But even if/when that happens, I couldn't give a fuck what they think of me, not one bit. And that goes for the people I was at University with too. My attitude has always being "If I'm happy, why the fuck should I care what you think?"

At the end of the day, most people just aren't worth worrying about.

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 07:20 AM
Originally posted by binnie
... Would you say that your whole lives have been shaped by High School experiences?...

Hell no!

But if you ask me to go to a high school reunion, I won't...
No interest in that.

I've moved on the day I graduated and never looked back!

:cool:

Ellyllions
08-09-2007, 08:27 AM
Binnie, I'm there with ya. I LOVED High School.

I didn't have boys crawling all over me, as I was the "poor girl". I wasn't a cheerleader, didn't get asked to any parties, but I had a GREAT time.

As a matter of fact, when I was working at the local PD I didn't need a class reunion to see my classmates. Most weekends, at least 1/3 of them would get DUI's or in fights and would end up with me booking them for the weekend....:)

binnie
08-09-2007, 09:35 AM
Originally posted by Ellyllions


As a matter of fact, when I was working at the local PD I didn't need a class reunion to see my classmates. Most weekends, at least 1/3 of them would get DUI's or in fights and would end up with me booking them for the weekend....:)

Ha Ha!!

That must be a great feeling!

TAKIN WHISKEY
08-09-2007, 10:17 AM
I'm going back next Thursday for my 20 year class reunion. I am looking foward to seeing a bunch of people I partied with and teammates as well. Our class was about 400 people and from what I hear about 300 will attend. Sounds like a party to me.

SparkieD
08-09-2007, 10:24 AM
Originally posted by binnie
Would you say that your whole lives have been shaped by High School experiences?




No fucking way!

I loved high school. I was the rare kid who listened to all the grown-ups when they told me it was the best years of my life. I had plenty of friends and got invited to all the parties. As for those snotty asses, I enjoyed spitting in the face of adversity. I could've dressed and acted like them, but what fun would that have been? I left school most days with a big smile. Life was easy. Going to my reunion was like revisiting my youth.

binnie
08-09-2007, 10:35 AM
Originally posted by SparkieD
No fucking way!

I loved high school. I was the rare kid who listened to all the grown-ups when they told me it was the best years of my life. I had plenty of friends and got invited to all the parties. As for those snotty asses, I enjoyed spitting in the face of adversity. I could've dressed and acted like them, but what fun would that have been? I left school most days with a big smile. Life was easy. Going to my reunion was like revisiting my youth.

But those snotty people bothered you right? Or am I completely misinterpretting what you're saying?

I too listened to the adults, and recognized that school was a fucking easy life: "Sit down, copy this from the board, remember it, and regurgiate it in an exam". Um, ok. "Oh, and your day will be over by 3.30pm and then you can do whatever the fuck you like". Jeezus, what an easy life. Glad I took the time to enjoy it.

I also thought it was great between 16-18 when you're becoming an adult, and expressing yourself, but you also have the safety of belonging to a group, and collective identity: there's no other time in life like that, and it was so rewarding at the time.

SparkieD
08-09-2007, 10:57 AM
Originally posted by binnie
But those snotty people bothered you right? Or am I completely misinterpretting what you're saying?



Gross misinterpretation, Bin. If I had been like a lot of kids, they might've bothered me, but I was always pretty confident. Those girls were just another source of amusement for me.

hideyoursheep
08-09-2007, 10:59 AM
Binnie, dude! You're only 25! I don't even remember thinking about High School buddies or old girlfriends until I got word of the 10 year reunion. I was too busy making NEW friends and meeting all the soon-to-be-ex-girlfriends of Mr.sheep.

Back in the day,(like you really care) being a metalhead was a bad thing- but also was more en vogue than it would be now, probably. There seemed to be a good balance of both snobby fuckers and MY PEOPLE...I ran with both...only because the snobby fuckers, or "preppies" wanted a bad boy mascot maybe. The 'heads accepted me for what I was,but some of them copped an attitude for me running with the other folks. It was wierd.
Some folks may still be that way. I could never do that-run with a certain "click"... Ya know, even now some idiots have to "belong" to something in order to feel validated.
Fuck 'em.

Sounds like you're a CVH Fan!:rockit2: :rockit2:

binnie
08-09-2007, 11:21 AM
Originally posted by SparkieD
Gross misinterpretation, Bin. If I had been like a lot of kids, they might've bothered me, but I was always pretty confident. Those girls were just another source of amusement for me.

OK, that's cool. Sorry for the misinterpretation.

binnie
08-09-2007, 11:25 AM
Originally posted by hideyoursheep
I don't even remember thinking about High School buddies or old girlfriends until I got word of the 10 year reunion. I was too busy making NEW friends and meeting all the soon-to-be-ex-girlfriends of Mr.sheep.



Actually, that pretty much sums up my life since leaving school. Except for the people I'm still in touch with, I really don't think about school that much at all. I look back on it fondly, but I've always been good at moving on. I've always tried to be "in the moment" as much as possible, as cheesy as that sounds.

No regrets or any of that shit. I certainly enjoyed school, but I've enjoyed life after it too, but in a totally different way.

binnie
08-09-2007, 11:26 AM
hideyoursheep, your avatar fuckin' rules!

DavidLeeNatra
08-09-2007, 11:41 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I'm going to let her decide what she wants. Then I'll go from there.

But, I don't carry a torch, per se. I just know that she's the one I always wanted. It hasn't stopped me from dating. I just know that when I think of her, no one else ever comes close.

PUSSY ! ! !

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 02:43 PM
Originally posted by binnie
But those snotty people bothered you right?...

I know this question was not intended towards me but I have to get this off my chest...

I went to public elementary school where all the kids came from the same neighborhood and where pretty much on the same level as far as social class goes. I had a great time.

Then, (from 11 to 16) I went to this very expensive private secondary school where girls came from everywhere in the city... except from my neighborhood and the ones that where less fortunate. The only reason why I got "a chance" to go there was because my Mom. (a teacher) had this "connection", so my parents sorta got a discount... My grades where also very good.

Accademically, *that school was and still is top of the crop. It was my Mother's dream that at least, one of her daughters would get to attend it.

So try to imagine that... ME, in the middle of all extremely rich girls along with only 3 other ones in my situation. So the 4 of us hung out like wolfs in a pack. We listened to our music together, we ate in our corner at lunch time, we where the only ones who's parents didn't buy a car at age 16, we couldn't afford to go skiing in the French Alps as a school trip etc... etc... the list is long.

I had absolutely nothing in common with those girls that where making fun of us as we where waiting for the bus, freezing our ass off in the winter... Sure, my friends and I looked better, cooler and had a lot more fun without that 2X4 up our ass (like they had) but as a teenager, that money issue was affecting me. Call it jealousy... maybe it was but I tell you, it was very hard NOT to compare all the time.

The worst part was that those educators (fuck'n nuns) where totally dissing us and would always rule in favor of those snobs because on top of having their parent's money, they had their very generous tax deductable "charity donations". I was never a dollar sign for them, therefore, I was nothing!

Now someone tell me...
How could I keep good memories of that? Why would I go back there? And for who? (I've kept in touch with my 3 friends anyway)...

Hell, eaven my parents could admitt later on, that besides this great education that I got, it might not have been a very good idea on an emotional level for me.

Another down side was that in my own neighborhood, the public school kids where treating ME as a snob, saying I was studying to become a nun, that I had that 2X4 up my ass... in their eyes, I could never be cool in that stupid uniform that didn't show my true colors...

Besides... this "girl only" business works only as a male fantasy. Life is not normal, when you spend 5 years without one boy around! I only started to really meet guys in College... at age 17. There, I became "a popular" instantly!

Anyway, nothing ever prevented me from going far in life and live all those great experiences.

I regret nothing... what's done is done but I only have one thing to say to those nuns and nun's worshipers... :fucku2:





*They now admitt boys.

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 02:55 PM
Originally posted by DavidLeeNatra
PUSSY ! ! !

No... "Gentleman"!

Dan
08-09-2007, 03:03 PM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Yes, yes.... YES!!!

This Saying Is A Trade-Mark Of The Sheep Pen.:D

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 03:21 PM
Originally posted by Dan
This Saying Is A Trade-Mark Of The Sheep Pen.:D

WHAT? :mad:

... Let me go check that out... :rolleyes:

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 03:24 PM
O.K...
Uff!
You "scared" me for a minute!
L.O.L.

Ally_Kat
08-09-2007, 03:41 PM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
The worst part was that those educators (fuck'n nuns) where totally dissing us and would always rule in favor of those snobs because on top of having their parent's money, they had their very generous tax deductable "charity donations". I was never a dollar sign for them, therefore, I was nothing!


That was elementary school for me. The social environment of there and high school was something I just dealt with because I had to be there. Didn't have many friends at either, preferred it that way.

The few friends I did have in high school ended up being backstabbers and hussies, the one stealing a (loser) boyfriend from me, others accusing me of trying to break up her relationship with her boyfriend at the time. It was a huge learning experience for me that I think I needed, esp at the time it happened because I was moving on with my life. It kinda made me look at myself and where/who I wanted to be and realize those people were trying to hold me back. Hell, they tried to contact me just the other day to "catch up." Started slamming me to one of my friends when I ignored the invite. Kinda an ego boost, though, when these people you really don't think twice about spend all that energy on you, esp when they claim to be so better off in life than me. :D

After that, college was the best thing ever. I probably view college with as much love as some of you view high school. So good I stayed for an extra degree. I pretty much felt during college and even a bit now that I have the world by the balls. But, then again, that could just be my age talking.

Either way, Ally is talking about balls. lol :hula:

Ellyllions
08-09-2007, 05:15 PM
Mr. V....my mom always told me, "If they'll do it For you, they'll do it to you."

Meaning that if you cheat with someone, it's all to likely that they'll cheat on you.

No matter what's said on this thread that you should or shouldn't do...If this woman will mess around with you while she's married to that other man, she'll mess around on you when he's no longer her husband.

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 05:25 PM
Originally posted by Ellyllions
Mr. V....my mom always told me, "If they'll do it For you, they'll do it to you."

Meaning that if you cheat with someone, it's all to likely that they'll cheat on you...

Your Mama's right!
Cheating is being dishonnest... You're either it or you're not...

And to think: "Well, not ME... she/he wouldn't do it to ME" is like putting your head in the sand.


Personally, I would NEVER consider a relationship with a man that cheats on his wife
(weather with me or others...). It would be like looking for trouble!

blonddgirl777
08-09-2007, 05:29 PM
There is also this thing called "Karma" that I beleive in...
"What goes around comes around"!


Mr.V., you've waited this long... if it's meant to be, it should just happen naturally without any fuss and greif.

Mr. Vengeance
08-09-2007, 11:00 PM
I hesitate to mention that I've received e-mail.....

Ally_Kat
08-09-2007, 11:18 PM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I hesitate to mention that I've received e-mail.....

be cordial but not too giving in at first.

blonddgirl777
08-10-2007, 12:55 AM
Originally posted by Ally_Kat
be cordial but not too giving in at first.

Back in the days, THAT used to be "the rule"!

blonddgirl777
08-10-2007, 12:56 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I hesitate to mention that I've received e-mail.....

Maybe I'm too curious but am I the only one that would like to know (roughly) what it said?

Ally_Kat
08-10-2007, 01:23 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Maybe I'm too curious but am I the only one that would like to know (roughly) what it said?

Not at all. I do, too, but I was trying to enforce willpower.

binnie
08-10-2007, 02:56 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Maybe I'm too curious but am I the only one that would like to know (roughly) what it said?

Nope, I wanna know too!

Hope it was what you wanted to hear Mr. V

blonddgirl777
08-10-2007, 04:01 AM
Drum Roll................................

binnie
08-10-2007, 04:04 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
Drum Roll................................

We're becoming like school girls wanting to know the latest gossip!

Coyote
08-10-2007, 06:42 AM
High school sucked.
So many girls to charm, so many rejections.


Besides, my heart wasn't in it after the second year.
Especially after seeing how many people took it waay too seriously, like that little fucking white graduation cap would determine the quality of your life... :rolleyes:

We'll see in some 10 years, when the reunions start going.

Mr. Vengeance
08-10-2007, 06:51 AM
More or less that she wants to get together to chat. I'm not going to read too much into it.

Call me Cool Hand Luke.

binnie
08-10-2007, 06:53 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance


Call me Cool Hand Luke.

Just remember "sometimes nothing is a great hand" (or words to that effect) :)

DavidLeeNatra
08-10-2007, 07:42 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
Call me Cool Hand Luke.

no...let's keep calling you "pussy" ;)

you know that I'm kidding...I whish you all the best and say it again and again...if there is a chance go for it...if you crash...fine...but you've tried...

have seen "rocky balboa" yesterday on DVD...it's not over until it's over...

Ellyllions
08-10-2007, 08:10 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
More or less that she wants to get together to chat. I'm not going to read too much into it.

Call me Cool Hand Luke.

Yeah, be careful.

If she's in a relationship that she wants out of, she'll use you to facilitate that. Too many times, cheaters need to either; a) have an excuse to end it, or b) do something that makes them feel guilty enough to feel undeserving.

When their goal is just to end the relationship that they're in. Once the goal is reached, the affair will hear things like, "it's not you, it's me..", "I'm going through so much with the divorce, that I need some time...", and "I just need to be alone". It's all so confusing because they haven't thought passed the seperation until it finally happens. And the affair, all of a sudden, doesn't seem so exciting anymore.

My neighbor was seeing a woman who was in the midst of a seperation. She had 2 children who loved their father, and the father had basically given her and the kids the house to live in. The father came around a lot as he made it a priority to be in his children's lives, but they fought a lot when he did come over. He would insist on knowing who she was dating and questioned her quite often about how things were being done around his children. He was very controlling which was one of the reasons she'd gotten seperated from him. Well, when my neighbor started telling us about how often she told him about the father coming over, what the father would say about her new boyfriend, I got the impression that she was using my neighbor and I told him so...

My neighbor thought this woman was "the one" but he told her that he couldn't continue the relationship as long as the ex was around so often. So, he didn't go back to see her for a couple of weeks. She called him one day to tell him that she'd moved out of the house and had found a townhouse to buy for her and the kids. My neighbor was ecstatic and impressed that she'd taken such a large step to close that gap between her and the father. But...

It only took a week or so for my neighbor to break it off with her for good. When I asked him why, he said..."It's just not the same".

Now, this is a weird take on what I was saying above because my neighbor is a single man. But the premise remains the same. She used him to keep the husband interested. When the boyfriend suggested that it was either him or the father, she made a move to truly get away from the father. BUT, once the competition was over my neighbor was no longer interested in her.

My point is that sometimes it truly is the "game" and not the players. Don't mess with this woman until she's distanced herself from her husband and that you're certain of that. If you still have strong feelings for her, don't allow it to all be ruined because she needs a lever to pry her away from her husband. Because once she's away, there's a good chance that she won't need you anymore.

hideyoursheep
08-10-2007, 11:05 AM
GEEZ!

You've sucked me into this thing...

I can't stop checking in.

I don't wanna know what the e-mail said. It's your buisness.
*peeking through fingers*

Keep it within the field of play, you'll be fine.


BTW...

There was a girl from the neighborhood who was kinda cute but short and chunky with braces...It was rumored she liked me. I ignored it. She married a friend of mine.

I met her at my Grandfather's funeral in 2004. She was HOT!!

She is also a lesbian now.

TAKIN WHISKEY
08-10-2007, 11:25 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
More or less that she wants to get together to chat. I'm not going to read too much into it.

Call me Cool Hand Luke.

So, are you going to set up a meeting?

jharp84
08-10-2007, 11:44 AM
Mr. V - Congrats!! What a response! I always thought if I started a thresd like this- DUMPED!! Fuck - my wife just left me because I was pissed at her for not trying to help me at all maintaining a large home, yard, dogs(that she and stepdaughter wanted), and paid no bills whatsoever!), she has been with at least 3 dudes on the internet, chatting while she was still here, and I paid for her mobile home and she let an asshole in she now regrets! I gave her a second chance to come back after she realizes she fucked up! He works at a factory $12.50 an hour, she quit her job and started there, got fucked at $8.50 an hour! Hates the dude, gave me shit for my drinking(due to stress of life, job and fully supporting her and kids) and this jag-off is on his 3rd DUI! Used her for a place to live and a ride to work! Her stepson will not even visit her on visitation weekends! That's why I earlier stated to go for this girl before it is too late! I fully respect your honorable intentions!! Me - I am a little fuckin JADED right now , due to my situation! But "THAT'S LIFE" CVH 2007!!!!!

Ellyllions
08-10-2007, 11:51 AM
Jharp, it sounds like she treated you bad because she felt inferior to you...

She jeopardized a good thing because she felt like she wasn't worth your efforts. Was she abused as a child? Did she have an absent parent?

She really traded down when she left you and that's not typical of females which leads me to belive that she's got some self-depreciating behavior and that's normally a conditioned response to a lack of self esteem.

jharp84
08-10-2007, 11:52 AM
Back to the point! I avoided all my class reunions so far, however, IRONY of life, high school was my favorite 4 years in life! Met people from different areas(centrally locacted Chicago high school - not the typical suburban deal) partied, had a great time! Got shot down from babes time to time but had a lot of hot female friends! Now, since I am getting divorced, I am tracking down one of those friends! Hell If it works we could be at reunion concert together because "hey - you never know" DLR YFLM!! I will attend the next which should be 25TH! Judas fuckin Priest - where have all the good times gone??

jharp84
08-10-2007, 11:55 AM
Originally posted by Ellyllions
Jharp, it sounds like she treated you bad because she felt inferior to you...

She jeopardized a good thing because she felt like she wasn't worth your efforts. Was she abused as a child? Did she have an absent parent?

She really traded down when she left you and that's not typical of females which leads me to belive that she's got some self-depreciating behavior and that's normally a conditioned response to a lack of self esteem.

Jesus Christ! Your dead on!! I just asked her if she wanted me to put the divorce on hold at first, no answer, then "I don't want to hold you back" She was abused from age 1-3 then adopted, That's why I fell such a STRONG NEED to take of her!!

Ellyllions
08-10-2007, 11:57 AM
You can't change her. She's searching for something and she's the only one who can find it.

At least you know that you did nothing wrong that made her leave.

She's just got some demons to purge, but no matter how many times she tries to pick up and start all over with someone else...this is something only she can cure.

jharp84
08-10-2007, 11:58 AM
Tons of issues here! I don't want to get personal with the site although I already have!! Here's to Monday!! UNREAL!!! I STILL CAN'T FUCKIN BELIEVE IT!!!

Ellyllions
08-10-2007, 11:58 AM
And you can't take care of her. She won't let you. Somehow it feels too much like pity or charity to her.

Let her go and don't look back. Just feel sorry that she has to go through all this.

jharp84
08-10-2007, 12:00 PM
Originally posted by Ellyllions
You can't change her. She's searching for something and she's the only one who can find it.

At least you know that you did nothing wrong that made her leave.

She's just got some demons to purge, but no matter how many times she tries to pick up and start all over with someone else...this is something only she can cure.

Thanks Much! Ell! She has stated that she needs to prove to herself that she can make it on her own!! I had that before we met! However she just got fired from that piece of shit job!!! Makes it tougher for me! 7 years! Anyway - I gotta let this go!

jharp84
08-10-2007, 12:01 PM
Originally posted by Ellyllions
And you can't take care of her. She won't let you. Somehow it feels too much like pity or charity to her.

Let her go and don't look back. Just feel sorry that she has to go through all this.

You must be in the profession! You just NAILED THAT TOO!!! Your freakin me out!! She told me recently that "you tried to help me for seven years" !

Ellyllions
08-10-2007, 12:01 PM
You sound like a good person.

But you're right, you do need to let it go.
It's not your fault and you can't control it.

jharp84
08-10-2007, 12:07 PM
Thanks!! Your AWESOME!!! ENJOY the SHOW!!! CVH!!

Ellyllions
08-10-2007, 12:11 PM
Big smooches and happy birthday!!!

smaz
08-10-2007, 12:27 PM
Hooked on this thread too, keep us informed Mr. V.... :)

Mr. Vengeance
08-10-2007, 03:42 PM
Originally posted by Ellyllions
Yeah, be careful.

If she's in a relationship that she wants out of, she'll use you to facilitate that. Too many times, cheaters need to either; a) have an excuse to end it, or b) do something that makes them feel guilty enough to feel undeserving.

When their goal is just to end the relationship that they're in. Once the goal is reached, the affair will hear things like, "it's not you, it's me..", "I'm going through so much with the divorce, that I need some time...", and "I just need to be alone". It's all so confusing because they haven't thought passed the seperation until it finally happens. And the affair, all of a sudden, doesn't seem so exciting anymore.

My neighbor was seeing a woman who was in the midst of a seperation. She had 2 children who loved their father, and the father had basically given her and the kids the house to live in. The father came around a lot as he made it a priority to be in his children's lives, but they fought a lot when he did come over. He would insist on knowing who she was dating and questioned her quite often about how things were being done around his children. He was very controlling which was one of the reasons she'd gotten seperated from him. Well, when my neighbor started telling us about how often she told him about the father coming over, what the father would say about her new boyfriend, I got the impression that she was using my neighbor and I told him so...

My neighbor thought this woman was "the one" but he told her that he couldn't continue the relationship as long as the ex was around so often. So, he didn't go back to see her for a couple of weeks. She called him one day to tell him that she'd moved out of the house and had found a townhouse to buy for her and the kids. My neighbor was ecstatic and impressed that she'd taken such a large step to close that gap between her and the father. But...

It only took a week or so for my neighbor to break it off with her for good. When I asked him why, he said..."It's just not the same".

Now, this is a weird take on what I was saying above because my neighbor is a single man. But the premise remains the same. She used him to keep the husband interested. When the boyfriend suggested that it was either him or the father, she made a move to truly get away from the father. BUT, once the competition was over my neighbor was no longer interested in her.

My point is that sometimes it truly is the "game" and not the players. Don't mess with this woman until she's distanced herself from her husband and that you're certain of that. If you still have strong feelings for her, don't allow it to all be ruined because she needs a lever to pry her away from her husband. Because once she's away, there's a good chance that she won't need you anymore.

Perhaps she might end up that way about me, but I'd never want to leave her once I had her. I can guarantee that.

Mr. Vengeance
08-10-2007, 03:44 PM
Originally posted by jharp84
Mr. V - Congrats!! What a response! I always thought if I started a thresd like this- DUMPED!! Fuck - my wife just left me because I was pissed at her for not trying to help me at all maintaining a large home, yard, dogs(that she and stepdaughter wanted), and paid no bills whatsoever!), she has been with at least 3 dudes on the internet, chatting while she was still here, and I paid for her mobile home and she let an asshole in she now regrets! I gave her a second chance to come back after she realizes she fucked up! He works at a factory $12.50 an hour, she quit her job and started there, got fucked at $8.50 an hour! Hates the dude, gave me shit for my drinking(due to stress of life, job and fully supporting her and kids) and this jag-off is on his 3rd DUI! Used her for a place to live and a ride to work! Her stepson will not even visit her on visitation weekends! That's why I earlier stated to go for this girl before it is too late! I fully respect your honorable intentions!! Me - I am a little fuckin JADED right now , due to my situation! But "THAT'S LIFE" CVH 2007!!!!!

Sucks ass, dude. Keep your head up.

I'm shocked at the legs this topic has. I just was posting to get it out because I had to bring it up somewhere. I'm shocked people are intruiged.

I'm trying not to say much in detail so as not to jinx the karma!

Mr. Vengeance
08-10-2007, 03:44 PM
Originally posted by binnie
Just remember "sometimes nothing is a great hand" (or words to that effect) :)

"Sometimes nothin' is a real cool hand."

Mr. Vengeance
08-10-2007, 07:26 PM
Anyway....thanks to all who are giving advice. It's helping.

Jérôme Frenchise
08-10-2007, 09:14 PM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I'm trying not to say much in detail so as not to jinx the karma!

It's odd but there might be something there. I mean when you unveil stuff about love affairs... like it could have some negative influence on them... I don't know how but it seems to be so. :cool:

ace diamond
08-10-2007, 09:28 PM
Originally posted by jharp84
Mr. V - Congrats!! What a response! I always thought if I started a thresd like this- DUMPED!! Fuck - my wife just left me because I was pissed at her for not trying to help me at all maintaining a large home, yard, dogs(that she and stepdaughter wanted), and paid no bills whatsoever!), she has been with at least 3 dudes on the internet, chatting while she was still here, and I paid for her mobile home and she let an asshole in she now regrets! I gave her a second chance to come back after she realizes she fucked up! He works at a factory $12.50 an hour, she quit her job and started there, got fucked at $8.50 an hour! Hates the dude, gave me shit for my drinking(due to stress of life, job and fully supporting her and kids) and this jag-off is on his 3rd DUI! Used her for a place to live and a ride to work! Her stepson will not even visit her on visitation weekends! That's why I earlier stated to go for this girl before it is too late! I fully respect your honorable intentions!! Me - I am a little fuckin JADED right now , due to my situation! But "THAT'S LIFE" CVH 2007!!!!!

buddy.......i'm gonna drink this whole fucking 5th of jack tonight just for you.....because your life is FUCKED UP!!!
cheers john
ace

Mr. Vengeance
08-10-2007, 10:07 PM
Originally posted by ace diamond
buddy.......i'm gonna drink this whole fucking 5th of jack tonight just for you.....because your life is FUCKED UP!!!
cheers john
ace

Yeah..me too..but I'm drinking beers!

DavidLeeNatra
08-11-2007, 03:56 AM
this turns out to become the "rotharmy group therapy thread"...somebody should post some porn.... :D

ace diamond
08-11-2007, 04:48 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
Yeah..me too..but I'm drinking beers!

cheers bro......here is to newfound freedom,and may our lives both suck a shitload less!!!

WDFA-CVH 2007-JUICE FUCKIN' CRELL

ace diamond
08-11-2007, 04:49 AM
IS THERE ANYTHING LEFT IN THAT BOTTLE?

jharp84
08-11-2007, 10:05 AM
Originally posted by DavidLeeNatra
this turns out to become the "rotharmy group therapy thread"...somebody should post some porn.... :D
:D

Mr. Vengeance
08-11-2007, 10:06 AM
What's there to do tonight? Anything?

jharp84
08-11-2007, 10:06 AM
Originally posted by ace diamond
cheers bro......here is to newfound freedom,and may our lives both suck a shitload less!!!

WDFA-CVH 2007-JUICE FUCKIN' CRELL

Right On! ACE! :D

blonddgirl777
08-11-2007, 10:08 AM
Originally posted by binnie
We're becoming like school girls wanting to know the latest gossip!

Like school girls and.... "Roth Army Underground" thread readers!

blonddgirl777
08-11-2007, 10:18 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
What's there to do tonight? Anything?

It all depends on where you live...
You know very well where Canada's "Sin City" is :D

Seems like some dudes here REALLY need to take a road trip! ;)

Wawazat
08-12-2007, 03:39 AM
Originally posted by DavidLeeNatra
this turns out to become the "rotharmy group therapy thread"...somebody should post some porn.... :D

http://i166.photobucket.com/albums/u109/summni/tape.jpg

Mr. Vengeance
08-12-2007, 08:45 AM
Originally posted by blonddgirl777
It all depends on where you live...
You know very well where Canada's "Sin City" is :D

Seems like some dudes here REALLY need to take a road trip! ;)

I miss Montreal.:(

hideyoursheep
08-12-2007, 11:20 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
Anyway....thanks to all who are giving advice. It's helping.

You betcha, Mr.V!

Leave the fuckin' up to ME, and I'll report back...

You don't wanna buy a house in "Mr. sheep's Neighborhood" if you can help it, believe me!!!:D

hideyoursheep
08-12-2007, 11:26 AM
Originally posted by DavidLeeNatra
this turns out to become the "rotharmy group therapy thread"...somebody should post some porn.... :D

How 'bout some amateur stuff?

Homemade?

Should I go first? :p

Ozzy Fudd
08-12-2007, 08:21 PM
something like this happened to me 15 years ago it was not a high school reunion but i ran into her at the local watering hole by chance. she cried in her beer, boo hooo i fucked up we should have stayed together he's such a mean fucker and on and ON!!! well long story short we fucked like wild dogs for about 3 weeks then one day poof she moved away with him. morrow of the story DON'T let the bitch have another chance to stomp on your heart. Here's to you DENISE :monekyl: :fu:yeah i still hold anger.

Mr. Vengeance
08-12-2007, 10:58 PM
Originally posted by Ozzy Fudd
something like this happened to me 15 years ago it was not a high school reunion but i ran into her at the local watering hole by chance. she cried in her beer, boo hooo i fucked up we should have stayed together he's such a mean fucker and on and ON!!! well long story short we fucked like wild dogs for about 3 weeks then one day poof she moved away with him. morrow of the story DON'T let the bitch have another chance to stomp on your heart. Here's to you DENISE :monekyl: :fu:yeah i still hold anger.

Sucks dude. Some chicks will do that to you.

In my case it was never like that. She never did anything to hurt me. Circumstances just weren't right. Maybe now I have a shot to rectify that.

Jérôme Frenchise
08-13-2007, 08:30 AM
I read the whole thread from the beginning, as there were new posts coming, and the last ones by Mr Vengeance and Ozzy Fudd made me notice this: I know you can't force your nature (I also tend to be too kind to the gals I occasionally fall in love with), but it obviously doesn't pay to be too nice to them... I mean, I never could do that myself, but not showing that you've melted inside is said to be rule number one. Looking detached enough, and trying not to get actually too hooked inside as well, or even trying not to care more than to the point that will get you down if things don't work exactly as you want them to, should prevent you from sour disillusions.
I wish I could be tough enough myself to do that. It seems that some of them babes love it when they come up against a heart that's more tender than fillet though... :cool:

Two years ago, at the wedding of a common friend, I met the "main" girlfriend I had in my late teens again, who got married in '98 with a boring, but self-important cunt who left the evening party. So she wound up talking to me and subtly suggesting she wasn't necessarily tied to her husband forever.
The growing crow's-feet at the corner of her big green eyes that used to be my garden and the fact she chose to spend her life and have a kid with that prick made me as hard as concrete, both inside and outside. She had to face what she made me feel back when we were 20 and she started dating that other guy (who's 6 years older).
Well, I know every case is different. But to me, those girlfriends I used to have who took other paths aren't worth being regretted, precisely because they chose to take them. If I happened to be a term in their choices, well they'd better not sell me remorse, fake or not: they can bugger off! :cool:

jharp84
08-15-2007, 01:15 AM
"I don't know if my wife left me cause I started drinking or I couldn't stop drinking" But "FUCK IT ANYWAY" Nicholas Cage- Leaving Las Vegas! If I am wrong with that quote!! #$%^^##@

jcook11
08-15-2007, 01:34 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I went to my class reunion and I should have just avoided it. Not that I didn't have a good time, but there's one girl who I loved who I could never have. I've never stopped wishing I could have been with her. It's literally affected other relationships I've had, because this girl always was THE one.

She's been married a long time. Has kids. I never married or had any.

When I saw her it was as if not a day had passed. She was still beautiful and we picked up talking as if it were yesterday. During the course of the evening, she more or less told me that married life was not good, and how she always knew how I felt and that she would have wanted to be with me. Essentially the woman I always loved is telling me in not so many words, that she wished I was the one she chose.

Now I can't stop thinking about this shit. Once it's too late.

Avoid these fucking things guys.....take my pathetic life as advice.

Sigh.....

PICK YOURSELF UP MAN! Go have yorself a couple of cold ones...burn some tree..... put on intruder (ran in a loop) and you'll be fine. :)

Mr. Vengeance
08-17-2007, 07:33 PM
To keep some who are still interested up to date, we exchanged our first phone call....

Nothing concrete to mention, but it's a start.

Ellyllions
08-17-2007, 07:33 PM
Is she still married?

Mr. Vengeance
08-17-2007, 07:51 PM
Originally posted by Ellyllions
Is she still married?

I don't know...I thought that asking that in our short conversation might be a little gauche. I'm waiting for a face to face to get all this out.

Sorry I don't have better info...I will let my Army brothers and sisters know as soon as something develops. I'm the CNN of love babay!!!!!

Ellyllions
08-17-2007, 07:54 PM
I just don't want you getting used.

I'm tellin' ya, if you really want her...make her work for it. You'll play second fiddle to no one.

hideyoursheep
08-17-2007, 08:39 PM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I don't know...I thought that asking that in our short conversation might be a little gauche.

That should have been Question #2.

Are you afraid to ask because you know the answer?

Ask questions...ask lots of hard questions.

Force her to be 100% honest with you.

Without that, you have nothing. Sand makes a poor foundation to build on.

Finding things out later, like what the problem with those two really are, could be gut-wrenching.

Watch your step.:baaa:

Mr. Vengeance
08-19-2007, 09:30 PM
Latest news: She wants a divorce. Has for a long time.

KATYDID'S MINGE
08-20-2007, 03:31 AM
Be wary of the rebound effect! Rebound relationships almost never work.

After ole Ed Roth left me, because I got sick of threesomes with his boyfriends, I went through men like cigarettes. Black ones, white ones, hispanic ones, a midget....

Each and every one of them fell in love with me. I broke all their hearts but left them with a permanent memory of me: syphilis. Mine is now in the late stages, which explains my posts and why I seem to be able to talk to God.

Luv,

Katydid (by and through her minge)

Hardrock69
08-20-2007, 09:32 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
Latest news: She wants a divorce. Has for a long time.

They will say anything.

Sure she has wanted one.

If I were you, I would wait until the divorce is final before getting (re) involved.

Hardrock69
08-20-2007, 09:33 AM
Originally posted by KATYDID'S MINGE
Be wary of the rebound effect! Rebound relationships almost never work.

After ole Ed Roth left me, because I got sick of threesomes with his boyfriends, I went through men like cigarettes. Black ones, white ones, hispanic ones, a midget....

Each and every one of them fell in love with me. I broke all their hearts but left them with a permanent memory of me: syphilis. Mine is now in the late stages, which explains my posts and why I seem to be able to talk to God.

Luv,

Katydid (by and through her minge)


Minge? Sorry you have to be attached to a fucking wastoid kunt like KatyBitch.

Oh well.

Too bad, so sad!
:rolleyes:

Ellyllions
08-20-2007, 09:47 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
Latest news: She wants a divorce. Has for a long time.

Do you know the 2 donut rule?

sadaist
08-20-2007, 11:14 AM
Running into old friends sucks for the most part. There is a reason I don't hang out with these people anymore. The excitement of recognizing an old familiar face makes you forget that for a short while, but then it all starts to come back to you. An old buddy got hold of me through Classmates. He's emailed me three times now. All he talks about is how great his life is, how important he is to his company that he started, how beautiful his wife is, and how he makes oodles of money and drives fancy cars and lives in a big house. I wanted to ask him if he's trying to impress me with this...or himself. I decided just to not respond.

Mr. Vengeance
08-20-2007, 10:02 PM
Originally posted by Ellyllions
Do you know the 2 donut rule?

No...Do I want to?? Don't kill my buzz....

Ellyllions
08-21-2007, 07:04 AM
LOL, it's an old band adage...

Until she's divorced, don't give her more than what you'd have left if you put 2 donuts on your dick.

Hardrock69
08-21-2007, 08:46 AM
LMFAO!!
:D

Ellyllions
08-21-2007, 08:52 AM
Same goes for girls at a show with boyfriends, present or not.

Mr. Vengeance
08-21-2007, 05:38 PM
Originally posted by Ellyllions
LOL, it's an old band adage...

Until she's divorced, don't give her more than what you'd have left if you put 2 donuts on your dick.

Jesus...that'll not leave much in my case...

HAHAHAHAHA!:D

Ellyllions
08-21-2007, 06:39 PM
Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
Jesus...that'll not leave much in my case...

HAHAHAHAHA!:D

That's the whole point!
Dont give her the whole thing until she can be yours.

;)

Jérôme Frenchise
08-21-2007, 09:35 PM
Yeah, one donut at a time.

:D

Hardrock69
08-22-2007, 12:59 AM
http://i16.tinypic.com/6byemmu.gif

tajmahal
08-22-2007, 01:20 AM
Get on Match.com and you will soon forget!

Shaun Ponsonby
08-22-2007, 04:13 PM
Luckily I hate everything with a pulse, so I'll never be in this situation.