An internet date for Shoes

[Sensible Shoes]

I swear, I should just give up and marry WARF.

Monday, I went out to meet a guy I'd met on the internet. We met up in a cool little bar with a beer can museum, bordering on dumpy, but with a lot of cool beers on tap. I ordered an unfiltered wheat which turned out to suck.

So we're sitting there talking about various shit, and I ask him if he lives alone. He looks at me like I have two heads. He says "Didn't you read my profile?" And I said, no, cause I'm not a member of the site and I can only read the emails that come in.

Silence. "So is it going to be a problem that I'm married?"

Well shit. I am not an innocent person, I have been involved with a married man before and learned my lesson. No matter what anybody says, it's a betrayal and SOMEBODY is going to get hurt, more likely everybody involved. I had hoped to move past that in my life and try and be a better person.

So what do you think of a person who goes on a dating site when they are married? Even if they're upfront about it?
I confess, I was very disappointed.

[ELVIS]

I swear, I should just give up and marry WARF.

Monday, I went out to meet a guy I'd met on the internet.

I've read enough...

[vandeleur]

Shoes it depends on the marriage . I know people who married and stayed for the kids but live different lives romantically if you know what I mean .
At least the guy was honest , he could have bullshitted you and it could ended poorly .

[Von Halen]

Did you fuck him?

What do you expect when you meet someone from Ashleymadison.com? :D

[Seshmeister]

I've read enough...

Over a third of people who end up in long term relationships meet on the internet these days old man.

[ELVIS]

I read more...;)




So what do you think of a person who goes on a dating site when they are married?

Total scum...

Even if they're upfront about it?

Was he up front with his wife about being out with a women he met on the computer ??

I confess, I was very disappointed.

Good, you should be...

He's scum, only worried about himself...





:elvis:

[vandeleur]

My mate met his wife on the Internet , when I took the piss he nailed it with ..., cos your gonna meet the right person pissed in a taxi rank at 3 in the morning .

He has a point .

[Susie Q]

Dating site and being married is not cool at all. They are just looking for a side piece. Unless you are cool with a Lil somethin somethin. I personally couldn't get involved with a married man. Not my thing..

[ELVIS]

Over a third of people who end up in long term relationships meet on the internet these days old man.

Is that another one of your "proven facts" of scientific crap ??

[vandeleur]

Something something ... Is a funny saying :)

[Von Halen]

I'll fuck a married gal. Why would I care?

I've suggested this book before. Some of you should read it. "The Myth Of Monogamy".

[vandeleur]

Married women ain't that hot , at least mines not ..... I keed :D

[ELVIS]

I'll fuck a married gal. Why would I care?



Because it hurts people...

[Von Halen]

Married women ain't that hot , at least mines not ..... I keed :D

Pics or it didn't happen!

[Von Halen]

Because it hurts people...

Oh.

Is that because we are becoming too much a pussified politically correct nation?

[vandeleur]

Hahaha

[Sensible Shoes]

Did you fuck him?

What do you expect when you meet someone from Ashleymadison.com? :D

NO I didn't fuck him. I know you find that hard to believe. :)

And I shudder to ask, but what the hell is Ashleymadison.com?

[ELVIS]

Oh.

Is that because we are becoming too much a pussified politically correct nation?

No, not at all...

For out of the heart come evil intentions, murder, adultery, fornication, theft, false witness, slander...

These are what defile a person...

[Von Halen]

And I shudder to ask, but what the hell is Ashleymadison.com?

I think that's the dating site specifically for married people that want to cheat. I have heard the ads on the radio. The guy that owns it is a zillionaire because of it. Hard to believe that many people are cheating, huh Elvis?

[PETE'S BROTHER]

Married women ain't that hot , at least mines not ..... I keed :D

mine is! but then the flash subsides... ;)

[Nitro Express]

You know the people who use that site are a bunch of bow wows looking for a fling of excitement in their mundane boring lives. Good looking people don't need websites to cheat. Hell they probably just cyber fuck each other like we do here.

[DONNIEP]

Married women are the best - they go home.

[DLR Bridge]

Hard to believe that many people are cheating, huh Elvis?

Sure don't make it right.

[Nitro Express]

No, not at all...

For out of the heart come evil intentions, murder, adultery, fornication, theft, false witness, slander...

These are what defile a person...

Yup. It's starts with lies and then theft and then adultery. The next thing you know everyone is swimming in green Jello full of baby parts.

[Von Halen]

For out of the heart come evil intentions, murder, adultery, fornication, theft, false witness, slander...



Who told you that?

The Easter Bunny?
Santa Claus?
God?
The Tooth Fairy?
Jesus?
Some random MEN that wrote a book of bullshit gossip, and you choose to believe it?
Frosty The Snowman?

Do you approve of the fact that Adam and Eve's kids were fucking each other Elvis? Because according to your book, that's the only way the population could have grown, since they were the only two living human beings. Did they marry each other too? There must have been an awful lot of fucking going on, to get this kind of population we have today. And I bet it was only married people having incestuous sex. I wonder how in the hell all the people of color came about?

Elvis, are kids in "Heaven", still kids? If one gets reunited with their family in "Heaven", at what age are they reunited? If I get reunited with my Wife in "Heaven", will she then be much younger than me, since she died before me? Or will she be stuck with an old man? If an infant dies, will it stay an infant for eternity when it is reunited in "Heaven" with its parents?

Just curious.

[Von Halen]

Sure don't make it right.

Is that what you've been brainwashed to believe?

Maybe it is right. Maybe it isn't. What makes you right, and so many others, wrong?

What's the divorce rate in this Country now?

[Susie Q]

I just ended a two year relationship where we met on a internet dating site. It don't matter if it's online or someone in your back yard. It's a crap shoot each time.

[Susie Q]

When the Times right Shoes....you got this!! The person will present themselves...In the meantime, enjoy yourself!! I know, I'm gonna... ;)

[DLR Bridge]

Is that what you've been brainwashed to believe?

Maybe it is right. Maybe it isn't. What makes you right, and so many others, wrong?

What's the divorce rate in this Country now?

Brainwashed??!! Are you familiar with the term wedding vows? Sheesh Von. Stick with posting cool live pics of VH from back in the day. :yo:

[Nitro Express]

Eve ate the apple and then everyone fucked, fucked, fucked. God commanded to be fruitful and multiply. Everyone was fucking everyone and everything. Then the flood happened and wiped out the whole horny mess except for a few "chosen ones" and then in time Moses put down the law and it was fuck your spouse only.

See all things happen on God's timeline. He allows orgy porgy when it is needed and reels it in when its not.

[Nitro Express]

Brainwashed??!! Are you familiar with the term wedding vows? Sheesh Von. Stick with posting cool live pics of VH from back in the day.

:yo:

Yeah. Marriage is a civil contract. That's why if you break your vows and the other person in the contract wants to push for damages they can. Playing the hokey pokey can get very expensive.

[Seshmeister]

Is that another one of your "proven facts" of scientific crap ??

You are a very odd character.

99% of people who were proved totally wrong almost every day would eventually shut the fuck up or at least think/google before spurting out yet another spray of excrement.
http://m.nydailynews.com/life-style/one-third-u-s-marriages-start-online-dating-study-article-1.1362743#bmb=1

[Von Halen]

Are you familiar with the term wedding vows?

Who made up those "vows"? Another man? God? The Easter Bunny? Jesus?

If any of those told you to jump off a cliff, you'd do it?

[Jesus Christ]

Jump off a cliff, Von! :jesuslol:

[ZahZoo]

Married guy trolling on dating sites... oxygen thief, scum.

I get Von's point that the foundation of marriage is made of sand in too many cases... But being decent and honest isn't much of a challenge... even for most idiots.

[DLR Bridge]

Who made up those "vows"? Another man? God? The Easter Bunny? Jesus?

If any of those told you to jump off a cliff, you'd do it?

So absurd my friend. You're trying to convince people that cheating on a spouse is not wrong and that we've all been brainwashed? I've got some more for ya. I've also been brainwashed to drive on the correct side of the road, eat 3 meals a day, hold down a job, pay my bills and not go on shooting sprees. Talk me out of this insane lifestyle I've so wrongly been lead to believe is correct!

[Nitro Express]

Married guy trolling on dating sites... oxygen thief, scum.

I get Von's point that the foundation of marriage is made of sand in too many cases... But being decent and honest isn't much of a challenge... even for most idiots.



Yup. Especially if children are involved. I've seen a few families ruined forever because daddy couldn't keep his love gun in it's holster.

[Sensible Shoes]

What I learned from dating a married man is that the vows of marriage are there for very practical reasons. When three people are involved, somebody is going to be hurt. End of story. Now, whether that has to be inside marriage or not, it's just a fact that 3 people means somebody is left out. Vows or not. If it's OK to cheat, why is it always the world's biggest secret?

At the time, I just didn't give a fuck. Those days are over, for better or worse

[Nitro Express]

Who made up those "vows"? Another man? God? The Easter Bunny? Jesus?

If any of those told you to jump off a cliff, you'd do it?

The people who agreed to the marriage contract. When you get married you enter a legal agreement enforced by the state. It usually means your spouse gets half your gross assets and you are responsible for providing for the children that resulted from the union if you break the agreement. Then you also have the personal choice if you wish to enter into marriage vows that are written by the religion of your choice or you even can make up your own vows.

The point is, if you make a promise or a vow, you are obligated. If you break promises or vows, you basically are a deceiver and have demonstrated you can't be trusted. Nobody in their right mind is going to want to enter a relationship with you.

[Nitro Express]

What I learned from dating a married man is that the vows of marriage are there for very practical reasons. When three people are involved, somebody is going to be hurt. End of story. Now, whether that has to be inside marriage or not, it's just a fact that 3 people means somebody is left out. Vows or not. If it's OK to cheat, why is it always the world's biggest secret?

At the time, I just didn't give a fuck. Those days are over, for better or worse

You mean Three isn't company? Down in freaky deek Utah one guy I worked with discovered his wife was having lesbian sex with one of her girlfriends. Being the typical man he promoted the idea of having a threesome. They did. Like most other threesome stories it ended in disaster. His wife ran off with her girlfriend and he ended up with nothing.

[Anonymous]

The point is, if you make a promise or a vow, you are obligated. If you break promises or vows, you basically are a deceiver and have demonstrated you can't be trusted.

Once again, Higgins nails it.

It's this damn simple.

Cheers! :beers:

[Anonymous]

You mean Three isn't company? Down in freaky deek Utah one guy I worked with discovered his wife was having lesbian sex with one of her girlfriends. Being the typical man he promoted the idea of having a threesome. They did. Like most other threesome stories it ended in disaster. His wife ran off with her girlfriend and he ended up with nothing.

Well, he has the memories...

Cheers! :beers:

[Nitro Express]

Marriage shows dedication. Men are nasty. We are like the dog that humps everyone and everything. See a marriage contract and some vows used to help keep the naughty male in line when people still cared about honor. One reason our society sucks now is too many people have no honor. My mom said,"If he's not willing to marry you, he really doesn't love you." There might be some truth to that.

[Nitro Express]

Well, he has the memories...

Cheers! :beers:

Hopefully a video too.

[ELVIS]

Well, he has the memories...



Is that what people's lives have become ??

TV and pornographic memories ??

Sick...

[Nitro Express]

Proof we are circling the drain and judgement commeth soon.

[Anonymous]

One reason our society sucks now is too many people have no honor.

The. The reason society sucks. See, what pisses me off is that everyone's a fucking hypocrite.

They criticize others for doing exactly what they, themselves, do all the time.

If you can't come up with a simple code of conduct for yourself & follow it, then you're not a human being. You're not even an animal. You're a fucking pile of dog shit.

I'm not saying we should be saints, or whatever the fuck. But when I give my word, I follow through. At times, I have lost more than I would've won if I backed down on my word. And I realize there's no reward waiting for me in the afterlife. But goddammit, my word is worth something. And I take pride in that.

If you're gonna lie to me, you'll do it once. No more chances. This stance does not make me a popular guy, but on the other hand, I don't lose my time with people who aren't worth it.

And if a woman says "I only do this with you", you know that you've got a liar in your hands. Unfortunately, every single one has tried that line on me. I'm still single.

Hell, is it so hard to say "I really like doing this"? That's the truth! Sure, it doesn't "boost my ego", but fuck me if I'm dumb enough to fall for pretty words.

Welp, I rambled again. Sorry about that.

Cheers! :beers:

[Anonymous]

Is that what people's lives have become ??

TV and pornographic memories ??

Sick...

Goddammit, E. Didn't I ask you already not to use that crap on me? It's not gonna work & to tell you the truth, it's kind of insulting.

Cheers! :beers:

[DLR Bridge]

Marriage shows dedication. Men are nasty. We are like the dog that humps everyone and everything.

Well, I happen to know that where my friend lives in the sticks of PA, it's the polar opposite. Married women chasing strange shlong like Von was right. :biggrin:

[Nitro Express]

Well, I happen to know that where my friend lives in the sticks of PA, it's the polar opposite. Married women chasing strange shlong like Von was right. :biggrin:

Oh my wife assures me women are just as nasty as men. I think the main difference is men are horny all the time and women aren't. But when women do get full bore horny Look Out! They are crazy and that is what I live for!

[Nitro Express]

I learned a long time ago women want you to keep your dick in your pants and leave them the hell alone if they aren't in the mood. If they are in the mood you very well better deliver the goods.

[Nitro Express]

Those who sow their wild oats in their misspent youth like there is tomorrow make better spouses later in life. A lot of people cheat because they feel they are missing out on something.

[DLR Bridge]

I learned a long time ago women want you to keep your dick in your pants and leave them the hell alone if they aren't in the mood. If they are in the mood you very well better deliver the goods.

True indeed.

[ZahZoo]

Those who sow their wild oats in their misspent youth like there is tomorrow make better spouses later in life. A lot of people cheat because they feel they are missing out on something.

I believe there's a lot of truth and wisdom in that statement... In my youth I've been on both sides of the equation. Nothing good ever came from any of it... ever. Oh sure, in the moment the adventure was grand... in the end it always ended up a mess that can never be cleaned up and just walked away from with disgust... and no honor.

[ashstralia]

*manhug*

[Anonymous]

Those who sow their wild oats in their misspent youth like there is tomorrow make better spouses later in life. A lot of people cheat because they feel they are missing out on something.

I'm a firm believer that you should make all your mistakes as soon as possible. Don't wait until your legal age - drink, smoke, snort, fuck, get it all out of your system.

It's easy to get rid of a reputation in your teens. And if you do it all, you won't feel the need to do it later, when you won't be able to recover from it anymore.

The only mistake that can fuck up your life is a pregnancy. So sexual education is required. Do it at home. Don't wait for the government or public schools to do your work for you.

Cheers! :beers:

[Angel]

^^^ This. My kid got into crack for awhile when he was a teen. When we were getting him treatment, I told him nobody would remember when he was 30. But if he had been 30, they would never forget. It's true...

[ashstralia]

I love you. My name is.....

419eater.com

lullzerinoes!

[Susie Q]

I was in two relationships in my lifetime where the guy wasn't "in to sex". I struggled with that because being a healthy woman wanting intimacy, the closeness, and physical connection. Going months without this I tried to rationalize this. He's tired, he don't feel good, maybe he's depressed, is he being unfaithful? I was always told, "it isn't you, its me." Bottom line, the first relationship I was in it for SEVEN YEARS and NOT ONCE did I go down the "I'm gonna shop around for another one." I was faithful until I caught him. His reason to me? I don't know it just happened. I was Depressed and she was there." He was ten years younger than me, unemployed for most of the marriage, with a lot of time on his hands while I worked my ass off. I have been in a few relationships since then, and it takes a lot for me to give up. When I do and choose to move on, I wait to get intimately involved until my last relationship is over, not before. Commitment, values, and personal self-worth runs deep in my veins.

[vandeleur]

To be honest relationships are very hard and I try not to be to judgemental .
You get a few miles on the clock and you usually have a few stories to tell . Good , bad and a bit of both .
That's life .... Could be a Dave song :)

[Anonymous]

^^^ This. My kid got into crack for awhile when he was a teen.

You just love giving Von Halen more ammo, don't you?

Ah, it's all in good fun.

Cheers! :beers:

[Anonymous]

To be honest relationships are very hard and I try not to be to judgemental .
You get a few miles on the clock and you usually have a few stories to tell . Good , bad and a bit of both .
That's life .... Could be a Dave song :)

You mean a Marion Montgomery song. Or a Sinatra, if you go for the most well known.

I love being pedantic. :)

Cheers! :beers:

[Anonymous]

I was in two relationships in my lifetime where the guy wasn't "in to sex". I struggled with that because being a healthy woman wanting intimacy, the closeness, and physical connection. Going months without this I tried to rationalize this. He's tired, he don't feel good, maybe he's depressed, is he being unfaithful? I was always told, "it isn't you, its me." Bottom line, the first relationship I was in it for SEVEN YEARS and NOT ONCE did I go down the "I'm gonna shop around for another one." I was faithful until I caught him. His reason to me? I don't know it just happened. I was Depressed and she was there." He was ten years younger than me, unemployed for most of the marriage, with a lot of time on his hands while I worked my ass off. I have been in a few relationships since then, and it takes a lot for me to give up. When I do and choose to move on, I wait to get intimately involved until my last relationship is over, not before. Commitment, values, and personal self-worth runs deep in my veins.

7 years??? I wouldn't wait 7 minutes, before I started getting frisky with you. ;)

Cheers! :beers:

[vandeleur]

You mean a Marion Montgomery song. Or a Sinatra, if you go for the most well known.

I love being pedantic. :)

Cheers! :beers:

So pedantic is the word you kids are using for it now . :winkglasses:

[Anonymous]

So pedantic is the word you kids are using for it now . :winkglasses:

For it? What it? You're being too vague, if you're gonna imply something, please be more specific, you bear poker.

Cheers! :beers:

[vandeleur]

For it? What it? You're being too vague, if you're gonna imply something, please be more specific, you bear poker.

Cheers! :beers:

Ima that's the problem , you obsess over the details and facts and I Prefer the suggestion and shadow of the vagaries of things :)

[Anonymous]

Ima that's the problem , you obsess over the details and facts

Well, that's what "pedantic" means. It's not the word kids are using for it now, it's the word that has always been used. :nuts:

I may be too sober to understand you right now. :confused1:

Cheers! :beers:

[vandeleur]

Yes, lack of alcohol seems to be the problem . I will rectify that later hopefully :)

[Anonymous]

Yes, lack of alcohol seems to be the problem . I will rectify that later hopefully :)

I find that, while alcohol will never solve any problems, there is not one that it doesn't help to mitigate, at least for a while.

Cheers! :beers:

[vandeleur]

We have discussed this before ... Alcohol is like a babel fish :D

[ELVIS]

My kid got into crack for awhile...

Goats smoke crack too ??

[ELVIS]

I love being pedantic. :)

Cheers! :beers:

Did you pick that up from Obomba or Binnie ??

[Nitro Express]

I'm a firm believer that you should make all your mistakes as soon as possible. Don't wait until your legal age - drink, smoke, snort, fuck, get it all out of your system.

It's easy to get rid of a reputation in your teens. And if you do it all, you won't feel the need to do it later, when you won't be able to recover from it anymore.

The only mistake that can fuck up your life is a pregnancy. So sexual education is required. Do it at home. Don't wait for the government or public schools to do your work for you.

Cheers! :beers:

Exactly. I started inhaling life at an early age. My misadventures began probably around age 8. By the time I settled down I knew what I had. Knew how rare it was and wasn't about to blow it. I had enough hanky panky and frat house style debauchery it was time for a more responsible chapter in the book of life.

[Nitro Express]

^^^ This. My kid got into crack for awhile when he was a teen. When we were getting him treatment, I told him nobody would remember when he was 30. But if he had been 30, they would never forget. It's true...

When I was in the experimentation phase as a teen it was a beer and pot world. Plus, the kids in our area for the most part were good kids. If my parents were out of town and I threw a party everyone would help clean up. There was this group of girls that would run the mixers and make the cocktails. I remember I threw a party and got all the booze. These chicks showed up with a bunch of fruit and juices from the grocery store. They made this fabulous jungle juice. They ran the mixers all night. The next day they always helped clean up and by the time everyone left the house was spotless.

It really was a slice of paradise. LOL! Nobody was a bum and we never had fights break out or any of that kind of shit.

[Guitar Shark]

My mom said,"If he's not willing to marry you, he really doesn't love you." There might be some truth to that.

Perhaps, but that's still an odd thing for your mother to say to you.