The first shock I had backstage was yeah it is a party sometimes but PEOPLE ARE WORKING!!! hit me right between the eyes...however,, under the stage or the after party at the hotel seemed to be how people visualize backstage, it is people getting their jobs done for the most part.
How come the band won't talk to me well I don't know maybe because they have to go to work soon and need a shower and a bit of chow and to line up their business plan for the day.
You can get some cool swag and a pic or two if you are lucky I guess.