Are ALL women just interested in how much money a guy has?

[Little Texan]

Ok, to start off I have been trying the online dating stuff for about a year now, and have had a personals ad on two sites for that length of time, without much success. Incredibly frustrated, I started thinking that maybe it's my looks, that I'm too ugly to attract women, or maybe my pictures just sucked, so I had some new pics taken and posted those, with even worse results. So, I was having a talk with my mom about my lack of success in the online dating arena, and told her that I thought it was my looks, and she proceeded to tell me, among other things, that she thought it had alot to do with money and education level. I'd been completely honest in my profile on my personals ad up to about a week ago, when I decided I would experiment a little and make up a bunch of shit that would make me appear to be some college educated rich guy with a great career and a huge income. Well, after going all year with just a few responses that I could count on one hand and a ton of rejections to my flirts and emails with my old, truthful ad, in just a few days time, I've already had three ladies email me, which proves to me that it really is about the size of a man's wallet that counts most to these women! I'm also having a ton of fun exacting a little payback by doling out a little rejection of my own to these greedy, money grubbing bitches every time they email me!

Check it out!

[binnie]

Dude, sounds like you've run into some women that you want to steer well clear of there!

[Seshmeister]

I heard an academic talking about this on the radio who had done a study and the findings were

a) Women are strongly motivated by money.
b) Men go by appearences.
c) Many men lie about their wealth.
d) Most women lie about their weight.
e) Women are far less likely to go for people of a different ethnicity than guys.

I'm sure you'll be able to find all this stuff online by googling...

[Northern Girl]

You look fine, but you have no confidence, dude. That's a big turn off.

And it's not so much you have to have A LOT of money, but if you are 30, have a shit paying job and live in a dive; it says to me you have no ambition and don't think too much of yourself. Would you find that attractive?

[NATEDOG001976]

I just think women are freakin crazy. I'm going to be a monk!

[Seshmeister]

Originally posted by Seshmeister
I heard an academic talking about this on the radio who had done a study and the findings were

Forgot to say he was talking about online dating specifically.

[Hardrock69]

Women tend to want a man who they feel can provide for them, be a breadwinner, etc.

So yes, they are moneygrubbers in a manner of speaking. But for a good reason.

On the other hand, I personally do not want to be in a relationship with some lazy gurl who expects me to pay her way.

My significant other would have to be equally motivated to improve her quality of life as well, and not be some lazy slacker sitting around all day shoveling food down her gullet and being a couch potato.

I tried the online dating thing a couple of times.

I possess all of the qualities most women theoretically find attractive.

But I listed my true income, which is not in the $100k and up range (yet).

As a result I would never get any responses.

I will never try that fucking shit again. I prefer the old fashion way. You meet someone, and you click. Or not.

There are lotsa women out there who by their own short-sightedness are seriously missing out.

Too bad.

But then, that is their problem.

[blonddgirl777]

Originally posted by Northern Girl
You look fine, but you have no confidence, dude. That's a big turn off.

And it's not so much you have to have A LOT of money, but if you are 30, have a shit paying job and live in a dive; it says to me you have no ambition and don't think too much of yourself. Would you find that attractive?

I've told you the exact same thing before, haven't I?
Now, listen to US damn it! L.O.L.


Seriously, I've seen some average looking guys that DID get some girls... their secret was "overconfidence".
You might think; "How can this person act anf feel as if he was Johnny Depp?"...
He does, because it's all in his attitude, what they beleive of themselves, therefore, what they project on to others etc...

Maybe instead of searching and searching, you should work on your confidence aspect and then, it would all be easier?

Also, I don't know anything about internet dating but I strongly beleive that human contact, meeting people in person, is a very good way to start too!

[blonddgirl777]

If I was single, I would never use the internet dating services...

Most girsl I know are somehow scared of that. We hear too much shit happening as a result of it (strange men lying about themselves, rapists that want to attract prays, married men who just want an affair etc...).

2 years ago, a friend of mide decided to go online and try that. It took a whole year for her to find a potential male (in writting). She accepted to go on a date with him and when she told me, I was sceptical and worried... What if he was a serial killer? What if she was never gonna come back from that date alive? Who was this guy? And another friend of her had the same exact concerns...

So we made her swear that she would go in a public place (with lots of people around), that she would keep her cell. phone on at all times, that she would answer it when we call in the middle of the date, that she would go to the ladies room and call us to reassure us etc...

Women are (or can be) scared... too bad for the majority of good/ honest guys out there but there are too many creepos in this world that ruin it!

Turned out the guy had posted a picture of him that he'd taken years ago because he had put on some serious weight... plus, he got a little to drunk for her own sake.
It didn't work out.

[Hardrock69]

Those are just other reasons why I will not use dating services.

For one thing, you mention anything about being a rock musician, I am sure 99% of chicks automatically think "loser", regardless of how successful the guy is....

And yes, there is too much room for deception.

Best to meet someone in person.

I saw a statistic some years back that said people who had successful marriages were more likely to have met each other through mutual friends than any other way.

[blonddgirl777]

Re: Are ALL women just interested in how much money a guy has?

Originally posted by Little Texan
... it really is about the size of a man's wallet that counts...

Try another way to search women, another state, other kinds... I don't know?

I have a lot of friends and know a lot of women (here, in L-A, S-F, Toronto etc...) and most of them are not only into money... There are some lazy gold diggers out there, but it's not the majority. The work places are full of women who value their independance and careers...

Yes, at 30 (and up) we want a guy that has his shit together, no wellfare slacker, no day dreamer etc... we want someone that could provide, if we both decide to have kids and that the woman stays at home for the first year or so... it's normal!

But most of us don't NEED the 250K/year to be happy... I've been told many times that if I wanted, I could have gotten myself a rich guy and blah, blah, blah... Fuck That! My ass might be "worth" but I'm not a whore!!! Those comments used to make me sooooo mad!

When I met my husband in 1991, he was dead poor! I was already working at what I've studied and making good money for my age. He was in a band, extra-confident in himself, with plenty of girls around him... And with no car, a very small bank account, he was on his way to L-A, in hope of a career there...

He had nothing to offer (money and security wise) but his great personality, kindness, good heart and... well... you know... But I could see that he was not a slacker, not a looser, not a dreamer and that he wouldn't try to take advantage of me.

The importance is that a girl sees that there is potential. Ex.; I had to feel that if that musician career didn't kick off, he wouldn't just turn around and do something else (not sit there and wait for a miracle to happen)... My feelings where right about him. He has made up for himself.

Don't go thinking that every woman is the same... and if they are, you are not looking at the right ones... that's all!
Try again...

[blonddgirl777]

Originally posted by Hardrock69
... For one thing, you mention anything about being a rock musician, I am sure 99% of chicks automatically think "loser", regardless of how successful the guy is....

Unless you're talking to a girl that's into R&R and that can understand that musicians can make money too!

A good friend of ours is a professionnal guitar player. Yes, in his 20's he wanted to be a Rock Star, tour all the time etc... but it didn't take him long to realize that if he wanted to put food on the table, he had to stop dreaming about the staduims and the groupies...

He went to study music in Boston (Berkeley, I think?), and now works as a studio musician, on those cheezy T.V. shows, at weddings, and wherever they will hire him. He also teachs full time to kids in a music school...

So there you have a working musician that makes decent income doing what he likes most in life. He met a girl (a dancer/school tracher) on the set of one of there cheezy T.V. shows... they are happy together.

I know that there is a breed of girls that are "allergic" to musicians and artists in general... they might be the ones to stay away from!

[Ellyllions]

No. Not all women are looking for money.

[blonddgirl777]

Originally posted by Ellyllions
No. Not all women are looking for money.

Money... we can get our own (it's doable for everyone)...

But a nice, good hearted man, that will be there through thick and thin, love you regardless of anything, have children with you and be responsable for them (not only throw money at them)...
THAT's hard to find!

[Hardrock69]

You guys are sensible.

And despite some generalizations even I throw out every now and then, there are always exceptions to the rule.

Personal compatibility has to be number one.

Period.

This includes kindness, communication, common goals and interests, oh and the ability to make each other cum heavily!