A Question for the guys

[lms2]

Pojo, I believe you are an exception to most every rule. LMAO...

I had a guy buy me dinner once just for smiling at him... and no, he didn't "expect" anything in return. Matter of fact... he left without even saying hi! That sucked.

I had a guy buy me a t-shirt at a concert one time and when I looked up to thank him... he was gone.

I have had more drinks sent to me with the instructions not to say who it is from, than I have had drinks sent to me saying this is from that guy right THERE! (The suspense is fun-I have done it to guys myself just to see them start checking out the women around...)

And just for the record.... if a girl returns a drink to a guy and says "No thanks I am taken" or "No Thanks, I am not interested" it gets met with a "Bitch" comment. If you just take the drink and go your merry way... everyone is happy. Well, okay, maybe the guy could be happier, but hey, if he is gonna sweat the cost of $3.00 drink... let him. He shouldn't have assumed it was gonna get him anything anyway. :D

[Full Bug]

Well NG, since your nips are always hard you cant blame the guys ya know.......

[Northern Girl]

Originally posted by Full Bug
Well NG, since your nips are always hard you cant blame the guys ya know.......

I'm not blaming or complaining, just trying to understand what goes on in those male minds. I'm giving the benefit of the doubt not everyone is just looking to score.

[MAX]

Hmmmmm..........

That's an interesting question cos I rarely used that approach back in the day. If I was in a bar and there was any sort of eye contact or smiling, I'd usually go over and introduce myself and start a conversation. If she seemed interested, then I would offer to buy her a drink. If there were no sparks, I'd just say "It was nice meeting you" and move on. Sorry, I'm not sure if that's any sort of an answer that you were looking for?

[scottydabodi]

The last time a dude tried to buy me a drink, I threw his fuckin ass through the front window... but I kept the damn drink!!

[MAX]

Originally posted by scottydabodi
The last time a dude tried to buy me a drink, I threw his fuckin ass through the front window... but I kept the damn drink!!

ROTMFFLMMFAO!!!!!!

[BARE BONE]

Flip this question around say a not so attractive woman sends you a drink. You accept, then she comes down and starts talking to you. Then your fucked because every woman in the bar is going to think your with her.I've seen it happen before. To answer your question is if you don't want the drink don't accept it (unless your short on money), you don't know him or owe him anything. so fuck him. He'll get over it. What do care what he thinks of you.

[BARE BONE]

Originally posted by scottydabodi
The last time a dude tried to buy me a drink, I threw his fuckin ass through the front window... but I kept the damn drink!!

lol

[MAX]

I'll tell you one of the most balsy moves I ever did though. I knew this one girl (she was hot but not very bright) from one of my classes. Not very well but we'd chit chatted a bit in a study group. Anyway, I was at a bar with a couple of buddies and low and behold she came in with what appeared to be her boyfriend. Well, she and I exchanged a couple of smiles and I sent a drink over to her right in front of her boyfriend. He gave me a dirty look and I just raised my glass as if I was toasting them LOL!!!! Before they left, she walked over, thanked me for the drink and gave me her number RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER BOYFRIEND!!!!

[Northern Girl]

Originally posted by MAX
Hmmmmm..........

That's an interesting question cos I rarely used that approach back in the day. If I was in a bar and there was any sort of eye contact or smiling, I'd usually go over and introduce myself and start a conversation. If she seemed interested, then I would offer to buy her a drink. If there were no sparks, I'd just say "It was nice meeting you" and move on. Sorry, I'm not sure if that's any sort of an answer that you were looking for?

No that didn't help at all, but thanks for playing. LOL.

What a sweet guy. Actually that would be the ideal scenario IMO, but ...

[scottydabodi]

Originally posted by MAX
I'll tell you one of the most balsy moves I ever did though. I knew this one girl (she was hot but not very bright) from one of my classes. Not very well but we'd chit chatted a bit in a study group. Anyway, I was at a bar with a couple of buddies and low and behold she came in with what appeared to be her boyfriend. Well, she and I exchanged a couple of smiles and I sent a drink over to her right in front of her boyfriend. He gave me a dirty look and I just raised my glass as if I was toasting them LOL!!!! Before they left, she walked over, thanked me for the drink and gave me her number RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER BOYFRIEND!!!!

THAT WAS YOU?!??!!?? Grrrr!!!!!

[BARE BONE]

lol

[MAX]

Originally posted by Northern Girl
What a sweet guy. Actually that would be the ideal scenario IMO, but ...

Well..........

What are you drinking?

[Ally_Kat]

Originally posted by lms2

And just for the record.... if a girl returns a drink to a guy and says "No thanks I am taken" or "No Thanks, I am not interested" it gets met with a "Bitch" comment.

OMG, that is so true for many many things.

At school I'll get random guys coming up and trying to get me to go with them to this winter dance that's coming up. Keep telling them I'm sorry, I'm taken, planning on getting married, and when they think I'm lying I point out the ring. Then they ask me what he has to do with them, that he'll never know, and that I know that I want their long, hard dicks. When I tell that I'm not that type of girl, I get called everything from bitch, cunt, slut (the irony!), and flaming lesbo. The lesbo was a new one for me. Poor guy. I was drinking when he yelled that at me and my beer ended up all over his face cuz I couldn't help laughing, which didn't make him any happier with me. lol

Randomly, when I'm on yahoo messenger, I get guys who live near me IMing me like crazy on how they'd like ot meet up and 'have some fun'. After a while, I got tired of the random IMs, so I filled my profile out and put on it that I was in a long-term relationship. They didn't stop. So then I put a disclaimer in it that I didn't cyber, I wasn't horny for them, and there was no chance in hell I was going to leave my man for them. And yes, I've been asked to. Random strangers who don't even fucking know me!

Did they stop after the disclaimer? No. So then I put that if they IM me anyway, I have the right to mock them. So now I usually get, 'Hi, you horny? Want to go out tonight baby? BYE.' Crackes me up each time I get it.

I had one guy from down under who honestly thought he would be able to convince me to leave my boyfriend, hop on a plane to Aussieland (he claimed he would pay), and be his sex slave. Started telling me that my man didn't know how to satisfy me and didn't have enough experience as him. I must have asked him a million times if his name was Mark cuz I thought it was Panamark playing a joke on me. Oh man, good times. :D


But yeah, do guys really think that approaching a gal in such a manner -- either online or in person -- puts them in a good light? Even if I was single, I wouldn't dare consider anyone who approached me that way. I dunno. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but it just seems crude and disrespectful to me.

[Bob_R]

Re: A Question for the guys

Originally posted by Northern Girl
Tell me what is on a guy's mind when he sends a lady a drink at the bar without any contact whatsoever. What is he expecting? Especially not knowing if you are available or not. Would he be more offended if I said "No take it back" or if I accept it but don't go over and talk to him. It's an ackward position to be in, and I feel bad accepting if I'm really not interested. But it seems rude not to accept either, and it would be embarrasing to the guy for the bartender to go back and say "she didn't want it."

If a bartender comes over, and says "Hey, that guy wants to buy you a drink" and I accept; then that's a different story. Then I'm saying it's okay and I will go over and talk to him.

Can I get a male perspective on this?

I'm going to assume that you are not married or this question takes on a whole new meaning.

On a side note: Max, you da man!