Couple things you can do...
Keep an eye out for when dad is totally sober and in decent spirits... You don't need to have an indepth discussion but just approach him and ask if you can have a brief conversation on something important. If he's game... Just say "Dad, I love you. A lot of the problems in this household are directly tied to your drinking. Can you please give some thought and consideration to giving it up? It would help all of us to get along better. Please give it some thought." That's it.
The other thing you can do... immerse yourself in your studies. While doing so... study abroad... the library, school campus, local park... just anywhere away from home. Also see if you can find a part time job... Yeah, Yeah it's tough doing school and work... But Hey you are young. This is a time you can afford to burn the candle at both ends. But the main point is... get out of your parents house as much as possible and focus your efforts and time on building your next phase. When you are at home... be helpful. Prepare a meal... clean up a little... be cordial. Then be scarce.
You'll end up separated from a lot of angst in the home... busy with your life and less a target for the old man if he's on a bender.
Keep an eye out for when dad is totally sober and in decent spirits... You don't need to have an indepth discussion but just approach him and ask if you can have a brief conversation on something important. If he's game... Just say "Dad, I love you. A lot of the problems in this household are directly tied to your drinking. Can you please give some thought and consideration to giving it up? It would help all of us to get along better. Please give it some thought." That's it.
The other thing you can do... immerse yourself in your studies. While doing so... study abroad... the library, school campus, local park... just anywhere away from home. Also see if you can find a part time job... Yeah, Yeah it's tough doing school and work... But Hey you are young. This is a time you can afford to burn the candle at both ends. But the main point is... get out of your parents house as much as possible and focus your efforts and time on building your next phase. When you are at home... be helpful. Prepare a meal... clean up a little... be cordial. Then be scarce.
You'll end up separated from a lot of angst in the home... busy with your life and less a target for the old man if he's on a bender.
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