Dudes, just avoid class reunions....

[Mr. Vengeance]

I went to my class reunion and I should have just avoided it. Not that I didn't have a good time, but there's one girl who I loved who I could never have. I've never stopped wishing I could have been with her. It's literally affected other relationships I've had, because this girl always was THE one.

She's been married a long time. Has kids. I never married or had any.

When I saw her it was as if not a day had passed. She was still beautiful and we picked up talking as if it were yesterday. During the course of the evening, she more or less told me that married life was not good, and how she always knew how I felt and that she would have wanted to be with me. Essentially the woman I always loved is telling me in not so many words, that she wished I was the one she chose.

Now I can't stop thinking about this shit. Once it's too late.

Avoid these fucking things guys.....take my pathetic life as advice.

Sigh.....

[binnie]

Mr. V, did she indicate that she was unhappy in her married life (that seems to be what you are saying).

Is there any chance that she was giving you the green light to make a move?

This girl must be really something if you're hung up on her all of this time later...

[Mr. Vengeance]

Originally posted by binnie
Mr. V, did she indicate that she was unhappy in her married life (that seems to be what you are saying).

Is there any chance that she was giving you the green light to make a move?

This girl must be really something if you're hung up on her all of this time later...

I'll tell you Bin, she was the one for me. Sometimes you just know, even if you're a dumb kid.

Moment I saw her, I felt exactly the same as before.

She wouldn't come right out and say it, but I'd ask her if life is good and she'd say she loves and gets happiness from her kids. When I'd ask about the husband, she would just say she'll tell me about it in detail another time. (we exchanged phone # and e-mail and such)...

I'd doubt I'd be able to go back. Too many years. She has a life and I have no life to speak of.

She kissed me nicely at the end of the night and for a second I thought about really laying one on...but didn't. I'm a pussy...someone should cyber beat my ass for it.

[binnie]

Also (and I appreciate that this in very easy for me to say, not being in you situation), I can't stomach the idea that there is "one person" for everyone.

Relationships are what you make of them, fate or any other such notion just holds you back: sometimes you click with people striaght away, sometimes you have to work at it, but you only get out what you put in: in my experiencem they're fucking hard work, and when that work stops being worth it then it's over.

I appreicate that's easy for me to say (only being 25 and all), but don't count your chances of a meaningful relationship over because of this one girl.

Chin up Mr. V

[binnie]

Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I'll tell you Bin, she was the one for me. Sometimes you just know, even if you're a dumb kid.

Moment I saw her, I felt exactly the same as before.

She wouldn't come right out and say it, but I'd ask her if life is good and she'd say she loves and gets happiness from her kids. When I'd ask about the husband, she would just say she'll tell me about it in detail another time. (we exchanged phone # and e-mail and such)...

I'd doubt I'd be able to go back. Too many years. She has a life and I have no life to speak of.

She kissed me nicely at the end of the night and for a second I thought about really laying one on...but didn't. I'm a pussy...someone should cyber beat my ass for it.

Well, when there are kids involved I'd always say that they come before the two adults, and I personally wouldn't go there.

However, maybe some of the Rotharmy girls can help you out here, because to me it sounds like she was looking for a little bit of Mr. V lovin', but I could be way off and don't want to encourage you to do something you might regret.

But dude, don't be so down on yourself. And never, ever put a woman on a pedestal until she's earned it: if you think that she's perfect at the moment you see her, and that you're not worthy by implication, you will never get anywhere. There is no such thing as a "perfect woman" or anything like that, it's whether they are perfect for you - you can only know that after a certain amount of time in a relationship, not at first sight.

But, like I say, I'm only 25: maybe my cut and dry philosophy will have become more complicated by the time I hit 40!

Crank some CVH, order a pizza, get drunk, and watch a LOT of porn, it'll cheer you up a little

[Mr. Vengeance]

Oh...I got drunk....I was so pissed about what might have been.

Can't turn back that clock, dudes...

I kept thinking about that scene in A League of Their Own where Tom Hanks is talking about how he has no cartilege left in his knee from his injuries, so that's why he wasn't fighting in the war...he says at the end, "How'd I get so useless so fast?"

[ALinChainz]

Don't give up hope dude ... all I'm gonna say.

[binnie]

Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance

I kept thinking about that scene in A League of Their Own where Tom Hanks is talking about how he has no cartilege left in his knee from his injuries, so that's why he wasn't fighting in the war...he says at the end, "How'd I get so useless so fast?"

Dude, you're not useless.

Cliched as this is going to sound, if you don't like youself, how do you expect anyone else to. Confidence without arrogance will get you a long way with women. But being so down on youself, or insecure, will just push people away.

Seriously, you seem like a straight up guy, and a damn funny one at that. Never think of yourself as useless.

[DavidLeeNatra]

Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I'm a pussy...someone should cyber beat my ass for it.

here you are...you are a fucking pussy and you don't deserve that girl...

you want her? go for her...no matter how many years have passed, no matter if there is a husband or kids...

she asked you to do it...or maybe she just asked you for a night to remember...

if you chose not to do it...don't cry...

and believe me...I KNOW what I'm talking about...I got a second chance with a girl I thought I lost for my life...I got a second chance now and I fight hell to never lose her again...

[Mr. Vengeance]

Originally posted by DavidLeeNatra
here you are...you are a fucking pussy and you don't deserve that girl...

you want her? go for her...no matter how many years have passed, no matter if there is a husband or kids...

she asked you to do it...or maybe she just asked you for a night to remember...

if you chose not to do it...don't cry...

and believe me...I KNOW what I'm talking about...I got a second chance with a girl I thought I lost for my life...I got a second chance now and I fight hell to never lose her again...

I wouldn't have wanted to get between her and whatever she has going on. Yeah...I'm a pussy.

[DavidLeeNatra]

Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
I wouldn't have wanted to get between her and whatever she has going on. Yeah...I'm a pussy.

fuck it...you can't get between whatever is going on fine...it seems NOT...

so here you are...afraid of your own ass...

[Hardrock69]

I recently found a way to get in contact with a chick I went to elementary and junior high school with.

She was nothing spectacular to look at in elementary school, and in the 7th grade she had moved away out of state. But
then on the first day of the 9th grade, as I walked up to the school entrance, there she was.

My God! What a difference! She had turned into a hottie!

So anyway, I saw her occasionally at school....never really hung out with her outside of school. I just kinda worshipped her from afar (at age 14, I was pretty shy with chicks).

So I traded a few emails with her lately. She was single all through the 80s. Got married, has some kids, seems to be doing well. She mentioned in one of the last emails she sent that she always wondered what happened to me. THAT kinda surprised me.

Oh well. I have not communicated with her since. She is happy with her life. She lives about 800 miles from me, so it is not as if I could just say let's meet at the coffeeshop for a cup of coffee....

Missed opportunities happen I suppose.

Sure woulda been nice!
:D

[SparkieD]

Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance


She kissed me nicely at the end of the night and for a second I thought about really laying one on...but didn't. I'm a pussy...someone should cyber beat my ass for it.

Hell no they shouldn't. She's married with kids. You did the honorable thing. If you had kissed her like that, one thing could've led to another and YOU could've had a hand in breaking apart a family.

I'm not trying to bust your balls at all. If you two exchanged contact info, then she is probably interested. If there's stuff going on with her husband, let HIM be the one who fucks up the marriage. Sounds like that's the path he's already on. You can be the one to catch her when it crumbles. If the two of you have a fling, there's the possibility of her being caught and then Hubby will have leverage against her. You don't want to create problems like that for her. Also, she will undoubtedly have feelings of guilt if the marriage ends up working out and there you'll be. Lonely again, feeling worse than before and with no third chance in sight with this woman.

I hate to see a person lonely(even you, Vengie,) but if you've been hung up on her for this long, then there's a reason. Stranger things have happened than two people finally being together after many years. If it's meant to be, it will be. Something worth waiting this long for is worth taking slowly and doing right.

[binnie]

Originally posted by DavidLeeNatra
fuck it...you can't get between whatever is going on fine...it seems NOT...

so here you are...afraid of your own ass...

A firm believer in the "tough love" aren't ya!

[DavidLeeNatra]

Originally posted by binnie
A firm believer in the "tough love" aren't ya!

a firm believer in taking chances...

come my age, bin and you probably know what it means to have fucked up some parts of your life and get a second chance to do it right