Dudes, just avoid class reunions....

[Mr. Vengeance]

Originally posted by binnie
A firm believer in the "tough love" aren't ya!

I'm fine with DLN's "tough love"...I've been kicking my own ass.

But I also agree with Sparkie. The great V may be a lot of things, but I'm not someone who does something to end a marriage, not that I think there was any legit chance of that from one kiss.

Maybe things would have escalated, and I wasn't willing to take that chance.

[hideyoursheep]

Mr. Vengeance, You did the right thing.

Sometimes, when women get bored, they invent problems with their spouses to justify getting some, uh, you know...

Don't listen to Natra...You could very well end up Tony Soprano'd in someones trunk...

When the man is clueless as to what's happening with his wife, then finds out the hard way, some crumble and do nothing. Some will take action-not ever worth it to come between a man and his family.

You have her e-mail and phone # right? Let her contact you first. Let her be the one to break it off with him if it's so bad. Remember, they have children...The same ones that HE will be seeing if they break it off and the two of you get together. You don't want a situation like that to be bad for years. (assuming they aren't already grown)

Think long-term,my man. Don't go for the instant gratification. The two of them have to settle things between themselves, be it reconciling or divorce. You don't need to factor into that.

Everything happens for a reason, bro. You'll get yours! Just be patient.

[Mr. Vengeance]

Originally posted by hideyoursheep
Mr. Vengeance, You did the right thing.

Sometimes, when women get bored, they invent problems with their spouses to justify getting some, uh, you know...

Don't listen to Natra...You could very well end up Tony Soprano'd in someones trunk...

When the man is clueless as to what's happening with his wife, then finds out the hard way, some crumble and do nothing. Some will take action-not ever worth it to come between a man and his family.

You have her e-mail and phone # right? Let her contact you first. Let her be the one to break it off with him if it's so bad. Remember, they have children...The same ones that HE will be seeing if they break it off and the two of you get together. You don't want a situation like that to be bad for years. (assuming they aren't already grown)

Think long-term,my man. Don't go for the instant gratification. The two of them have to settle things between themselves, be it reconciling or divorce. You don't need to factor into that.

Everything happens for a reason, bro. You'll get yours! Just be patient.

I don't really think it was that much of a decision. I cant imagine anything ever changing, and for the last 20 years, I've accepted it. No need to stop accepting it now.

[jharp84]

THIS WAS A "SIGN"of possible hope!! USE YOUR GODDAMN DLR/CVH ATTITUDE AND GO GET IT!! IT might take time and strategy, BUt "you only live twice" DLR-YFLM(can't remember which song) I have had some hard times with babes because the "nice guy" vibe! Give it a shot! What to lose?????????????

[Mr. Vengeance]

Originally posted by jharp84
Give it a shot! What to lose?????????????

My self respect.

[jharp84]

Dude! Do what you have to, if that's the case, that's fine w/me, I just feel if she's not happy now, she will eventually leave the dude and by that time you may not have another chance! RESPECT!!! CVH2007

[jhale667]

I agree with those who advised against doing the home-wrecker thing.
You don't want that eventual karma-bomb showing up in your mailbox...
If you exchanged info with her, yeah, she's interested. But let her initiate. She's the one with the baggage to deal with.

I skipped my reunion. Fuck a bunch of that noise.

[Nitro Express]

No shit. The last one of mine I was in Hawaii and missed it. Went to my wive's reunion in Seattle and what a keep up with the Jones fest that was.

Then some old boyfriend of my wife started hitting on her. Mr. numbnuts was divorced and lonely.

My sister started being stalked by someone she met at her reunion. The guy threatened to kidnap her when she was 17. Then she ran into the loser 20 years later and the twice divorced fool found her again and started stalking. He's in prison now I guess for beating the shit out of his exwife or something.

[Nitro Express]

I really didn't like high school and preffer to leave it in the rear view mirror. College was fun. I'm involved in the Alumni Association.

[Ally_Kat]

Originally posted by Mr. Vengeance
But I also agree with Sparkie. The great V may be a lot of things, but I'm not someone who does something to end a marriage, not that I think there was any legit chance of that from one kiss.

I sorta agree with Sparkie, too. However, it sounds as if the marriage may already be over. I've seen and heard many women sticking with a bad marriage because they'll feel like bad mothers if they disrupt their children's lives. And we can't just say she is inventing these issues without hearing what these details are.

I would deffy keep in touch. We don't know -- you might be, in fact, catching her as it all crumbles and get your second chance. Fate might be dealing you a card to play your hand. I never fully stood behind the "if it's meant to be, it'll be" saying. You have to participate in your fate.

But yeah, I was just start chatting her. Maybe an email here and there. No frequent phone unless stuff is crumbling/crumbled.

[Viking]

I avoided my 5th. And 10th. And 15th. And 20th. And 25th. And I'll continue to do so. I stay in contact with one buddy from my high school days, and he stated it clearly a few years ago: why go back just to see the same assholes we went out of our way to avoid to begin with? If there's anyone we wanted to stay in touch with since then, we've done it. Nobody wants to see fat, balding jocks trying to act 'cool' again, nor does anyone want to see an ex-cheerleader-turned-Large-Marge pretending she's still part of the 'in-crowd'. They all just spend 20 minutes making small talk, anyway, then gravitate towards the little cliques they inhabited 30 years ago.

[chi-town324]

never have or will go to any high school reunions...couldnt stand most of em back then...25 plus yrs ago...Mr V...keep in touch with her...but from a far for now...if its meant to be it will happen, but dont wait around for her, life is way to short.

[Tiki-Tom]

You've earned a grain of respect from me for the admirable way you've handled this situation thus far. If I were in your shoes I'd be there for her when needed and hopefully reap the benefits later. Don't wedge yourself into a mess like that. You want her kids to like you, not think you're the one who stole Mommy from Daddy. They are gonna be a factor one way or another be it on your end or her having to deal with its effect on her life and theirs.

Anyhow, best o' luck to ya. It could be nothing or the best thing to happen to you. If the spark's still there, it's just a matter of how well you handle it. You seem to be moving forward with a lot of care so far and thats speaks volumes.

[Hardrock69]

Here. A single sentence will suffice:

You can't go home again.

[blonddgirl777]

Originally posted by SparkieD
Hell no they shouldn't. She's married with kids. You did the honorable thing. If you had kissed her like that, one thing could've led to another and YOU could've had a hand in breaking apart a family.

I'm not trying to bust your balls at all. If you two exchanged contact info, then she is probably interested. If there's stuff going on with her husband, let HIM be the one who fucks up the marriage. Sounds like that's the path he's already on. You can be the one to catch her when it crumbles. If the two of you have a fling, there's the possibility of her being caught and then Hubby will have leverage against her. You don't want to create problems like that for her. Also, she will undoubtedly have feelings of guilt if the marriage ends up working out and there you'll be. Lonely again, feeling worse than before and with no third chance in sight with this woman.

I hate to see a person lonely(even you, Vengie,) but if you've been hung up on her for this long, then there's a reason. Stranger things have happened than two people finally being together after many years. If it's meant to be, it will be. Something worth waiting this long for is worth taking slowly and doing right.

Exaclty what she said...
Binni's input is also excellent.






Little ol' romantic sentimental me has goose bumps just reading your story Mr.V.!




Cheer up, if you never end up gettin' HER... there is certainly a Mrs.V. looking for you somewhere...